I have absolutely loved every series of This is Us but I’m getting bit beside myself with the Alzheimer’s story line. Is anyone else is watching ? I’d be interested in your thoughts.
The first scene that made me scream was when Rebecca (the adorable mother of three adult children and who has Alzheimer’s) sits them all down to make a plan for the future and tells them not to give up on their dreams in order to take care of her. By the time my parents had reached a diagnosable stage if dementia they were beyond planning anything and had lost all empathy or concern for any impact it may have in the rest of the family. We have had to use all sorts of guile and strategies to get them to agree to any plans to ensure they are safe and cared for. Not so Rebecca.
The storyline about her partner Miguel and the stress of being a carer was done well I think. The only part that has rung true.
But the bit that caused me the most angst was the latest episode where, now that Miguel is no longer around to care for Rebecca, a new solution was needed. After a lot of arguing between the three siblings who all wanted her to live with them, they settled on one of the couples moving in with her. I momentarily felt huge guilt that this isn’t what I have felt able to do for my father. I then realised that they would be sharing a huge luxurious house with lots of space for privacy, were also paying for a nurse 24 hours a day and had a separate cabin next door for a helpful uncle and his partner. A long way from the tiny house with creaky floorboards my dad lives in and no budget for extra care if I have to give up work to live with him. No relatives nearby and definitely no fights between siblings to be the one to take care of him. My brother can hardly manage his fortnightly visits without a few days recovery time afterwards.
And why don’t they sing with her ? Singing was her thing so why don’t they ? It’s all I can do with my mum some days and it’s one of the last things we have to enjoy together. Let Rebecca keep singing.
So really, This is Us, this certainly isn’t us. But I have greatly enjoyed watching anyway,
The first scene that made me scream was when Rebecca (the adorable mother of three adult children and who has Alzheimer’s) sits them all down to make a plan for the future and tells them not to give up on their dreams in order to take care of her. By the time my parents had reached a diagnosable stage if dementia they were beyond planning anything and had lost all empathy or concern for any impact it may have in the rest of the family. We have had to use all sorts of guile and strategies to get them to agree to any plans to ensure they are safe and cared for. Not so Rebecca.
The storyline about her partner Miguel and the stress of being a carer was done well I think. The only part that has rung true.
But the bit that caused me the most angst was the latest episode where, now that Miguel is no longer around to care for Rebecca, a new solution was needed. After a lot of arguing between the three siblings who all wanted her to live with them, they settled on one of the couples moving in with her. I momentarily felt huge guilt that this isn’t what I have felt able to do for my father. I then realised that they would be sharing a huge luxurious house with lots of space for privacy, were also paying for a nurse 24 hours a day and had a separate cabin next door for a helpful uncle and his partner. A long way from the tiny house with creaky floorboards my dad lives in and no budget for extra care if I have to give up work to live with him. No relatives nearby and definitely no fights between siblings to be the one to take care of him. My brother can hardly manage his fortnightly visits without a few days recovery time afterwards.
And why don’t they sing with her ? Singing was her thing so why don’t they ? It’s all I can do with my mum some days and it’s one of the last things we have to enjoy together. Let Rebecca keep singing.
So really, This is Us, this certainly isn’t us. But I have greatly enjoyed watching anyway,