Hello,
First time on this site and I am feeling quite scared.
My dad passed away aged 76 about 4 years ago with stomach cancer and between myself and my mum we cared for him (I am an only child). I noticed my mum struggled with his care but after he passed away she was okayish and we had some good times, although I knew something wasn't quite right. Then two weeks before lockdown her brother passed away suddenly with a heart attack. Lockdown followed and my mum got steadily worse with her memory and confusion. I was concerned so wrote to our GP and she was referred for a CT scan where she was diagnosed.
She currently lives alone in a bungalow that is far too big but has lived there for nearly 50 years, she is 86.
When we spoke with her consultant she acted as though she was fine but she is forgetting to take her medication (T2 diabetic, HBP, Thyroid) and even more worrying I think she is forgetting to eat. We are currently waiting for the NHS pre sorted dosette box.
She hasn't started the memory medication they prescribed as she is scared of the side effects.
I cleared her fridge and freezer yesterday and everything was out of date and she had got a lamb chop out to defrost and eat but it had obviously been out for some time!
However if I say anything she can be a bit stroppy and say bloody hell I'm alright. I have offered her to live with us, she refuses and we can probably convert the garage but again she is saying no.
How long can she live alone, especially when she thinks she is okay.
I am obviously worried as this is going to get worse. At the moment I cannot even think of a care home.
Is anyone else in the same position?
Thank you for reading x
First time on this site and I am feeling quite scared.
My dad passed away aged 76 about 4 years ago with stomach cancer and between myself and my mum we cared for him (I am an only child). I noticed my mum struggled with his care but after he passed away she was okayish and we had some good times, although I knew something wasn't quite right. Then two weeks before lockdown her brother passed away suddenly with a heart attack. Lockdown followed and my mum got steadily worse with her memory and confusion. I was concerned so wrote to our GP and she was referred for a CT scan where she was diagnosed.
She currently lives alone in a bungalow that is far too big but has lived there for nearly 50 years, she is 86.
When we spoke with her consultant she acted as though she was fine but she is forgetting to take her medication (T2 diabetic, HBP, Thyroid) and even more worrying I think she is forgetting to eat. We are currently waiting for the NHS pre sorted dosette box.
She hasn't started the memory medication they prescribed as she is scared of the side effects.
I cleared her fridge and freezer yesterday and everything was out of date and she had got a lamb chop out to defrost and eat but it had obviously been out for some time!
However if I say anything she can be a bit stroppy and say bloody hell I'm alright. I have offered her to live with us, she refuses and we can probably convert the garage but again she is saying no.
How long can she live alone, especially when she thinks she is okay.
I am obviously worried as this is going to get worse. At the moment I cannot even think of a care home.
Is anyone else in the same position?
Thank you for reading x
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