Hi all, I’ve not posted for a while but was on here a lot prior to my brother going into a care home and this site was immensely helpful in pointing me in the right direction, thank you all for that. My brother has been in a lovely care home for a year now receiving nursing care. Initially for the first 6 weeks he seemed to improve and almost enjoy being there despite how much he said he wanted to stay in his home. After living alone for some 25 years I think he actually enjoyed seeing people around him. However since those early weeks he has deteriorated at a rapid pace. He hardly talks now and has very limited vocabulary, is doubly incontinent and has to have help with literally everything and in the last 2 months he sleeps for most of the day. When I visit he just stares out the window and no longer recognises the family members in the memory album and I don’t see any recognition in his eyes when he sees me.. Due to a catalogue of Covid cases at his care home, I have only been able to visit once since Christmas. Last Monday the care home nurse rang to say my brother had tested positive for Covid but had no symptoms but two days on from there, they said he started sleeping a lot more, and refusing food and drink. My query is this: since the Covid diagnosis I get daily calls from the home updating me on his condition which i appreciate but it seems to be that each staff member gives me a different perspective. The medical staff who call say he’s ‘comfortable’, the careers say ‘he’s absolutely fine’ until I ask if he’s eating/drinking and they then say ‘no, but we’re doing our best to with his favourite milkshakes but he only takes a few mouthfuls then falls asleep’. Am I right in thinking that they are holding back on how he really is? I know it’s probably impossible for them to be certain of exactly how he is but I sense that they’re just keeping the worst from me? In general the home is lovely, as are the staff and he’s definitely in the best place. I wonder if anyone else on here has felt the same?