Hello,
I use this forum as my dad has Alzheimer's; however, I hope its ok to ask a question about my mother-in-law. Sadly, she has recently also become ncreasingly confused and we are recognising similar behaviours to my dad.
She arranged Power of Attorney several years ago, when her husband died and on the advice of her solicitor; this has me named as the only Attorney - she didn't want her sons as they are direct benefactors of her will. A few months ago she asked me to help her to action it as she was finding that she needed more help organising finances, accounts etc. This was all done and it has now been in place for a couple of months.
Today she has sent me several unpleasant messages saying she has no idea why I am accessing her bank, why I have taken documents from her house to make this possible (of course I haven't) and that she is frightened of "what else I am going to do to her"
I am beyond hurt and have no idea what to do. I know it is her confusion and probably dementia that is talking, but what are you meant to do in this situation?
I also have Power of Attorney, alongside my mum, for my dad. He is grateful that we do things and now is unaware of the situation, so we have never had an issue.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this, where the person you are trying to help turns on you in this way? How can I be attorney if she doesn't trust me? Any advice gratefully received.
I use this forum as my dad has Alzheimer's; however, I hope its ok to ask a question about my mother-in-law. Sadly, she has recently also become ncreasingly confused and we are recognising similar behaviours to my dad.
She arranged Power of Attorney several years ago, when her husband died and on the advice of her solicitor; this has me named as the only Attorney - she didn't want her sons as they are direct benefactors of her will. A few months ago she asked me to help her to action it as she was finding that she needed more help organising finances, accounts etc. This was all done and it has now been in place for a couple of months.
Today she has sent me several unpleasant messages saying she has no idea why I am accessing her bank, why I have taken documents from her house to make this possible (of course I haven't) and that she is frightened of "what else I am going to do to her"
I am beyond hurt and have no idea what to do. I know it is her confusion and probably dementia that is talking, but what are you meant to do in this situation?
I also have Power of Attorney, alongside my mum, for my dad. He is grateful that we do things and now is unaware of the situation, so we have never had an issue.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this, where the person you are trying to help turns on you in this way? How can I be attorney if she doesn't trust me? Any advice gratefully received.