my dad died in may and my mum died last week - dad had cancer and mum suffered from alzheimers - i think probably about 8yrs- i saw mum and dad every day over the last 3 years doing as much as i could to help them and when dad died mum really deteriorated mum needed 24hr nursing care which was the worse day of my life seeing mum in such a bad way having to go into a nursing home- i,d always wanted to have mum at home with me and my husband but it was impossible- i knew mum was very seriously ill years ago and also know that between dad me and my husband we were able to keep mum at home for a long time. dad always thought we would be advised that mum has nursing care and he did not want to be separated so we managed as best we could and did not involve outside help. dad did not want anyone other than family involved. mum already reached last stage alzheimers before she entered the care home- whilst mum was at home with dad i never really thought that i was losing mum, yes she couldn,t do what she used to do,we fed her, changed her, she couldn,t walk etc , i just thought of mum as my mum but being really poorly-last week mum died,so both my parents are gone close together. mum was only in the nursing home 5 months , i went every day to see mum- even getting excited that i was going to see her but the way this illness took mum was terrible- i expected to be able to remember mum as she used to be before all this but i cant seem to - i have had such a happy childhood and loved my parents very much but i have difficulty seeing my mum in my mind or hearing her voice- i look at photographs and i find im smiling because i can see mum had many happy times- i know this is a long thread but is this normal? i get weepy but dont think i am grieving as i should- i am still acting as though both my parents are here.