I am just about coping during the day but the nights are so hard. At 3.0 in the morning all my negative emotions come out. Who is this person that I am sharing my bed with? He cares about the dog but treats me with contempt. I love him, I can't imagine my life without him but at night I just want this to be over. Without sleep I can't do this much longer. I tried melatonin but it had no effect we increased the mematime and the aggressive language calmed down but he only sleeps for a couple of hours. He cat naps sometimes in the day but seems to not need to sleep any more. lollyc what drugs did you use for your mum.? If they work I need something.
We are not under any mental health care, so Mum's GP prescribes everything.
She currently has Mirtazapine 45mg (anti-depressant, but some sedative effect), Quetiapine 100mg (think this may be anti-psychotic and sedative) - the dose has recently been increased because she is now talking non-stop, like some sort of mania. She also has Lorazepam 1mg, on an as-and-when basis (that is becoming more an everyday basis).
We have arrived at this point over a long period of time. Some medications didn't work, and we have had to have tweaks to the dosages as things have deteriorated. It's not a miracle cure, but things are now much more manageable.
Speak to his GP, and don't play down how much this is affecting you. They will probably say that these medications increase falls risks, but you have to weight this up against the benefits. Managing dementia seems to be about taking the least worst option, rather than trying to find the , non-existent, perfect solution.