So...things have hit a new low. I decided to put Mum in respite care for a week whilst I have a little holiday in a few weeks time. The family is annoyed I won't discuss it with them but I have discussed very similar things with them so many times I can't tell you, nothing changes, it's all just talk and everything will fall back to me anyway, I'll end up driving home or on the phone to the panic alarm people at 3am. Family are always too busy, that's ok, I understand, so I will use respite care - problem solved. Er...no, because I didn't ask any of the family for permission and they don't want Mum in a care home even for a week...So I have cracked and asked who will take over from me on a permanent basis because I simply cannot cope with them getting at me anymore - apparently, I have no family after my Mum dies so I am no longer tied to them anyway so upsetting them further is a 'what the heck' situation, they've decided my behaviour is utterly disgraceful and Mum is better off without me. How they get to that when I literally plan my life around her and I'm available for whatever 24 hours a day 365 days a year I'm not sure but that's how they feel and they're all furious with me. None of them has a clue about caring for Mum, I could put her in a home permanently, but I can't even bear the thought. This brings me to my question, can I 'sign Mum over' to social services? Can I say I am no longer in a position to look after her and no one else in the family can and they'll take over her care? I've had little dealings with social services so any insight gratefully received - or if you have other ideas to get my family off my back that still results in my Mum being cared for...............