thank you @Bikerbeth just ironed his clothes and spare. dont want his sister thinking im not looking after him. she wont and back really aches. i know it will take ages but ive got time. its clearing it out of the house once sorted. all the bits add up and i dont want him being suspicious. hes asked my son to clear the attic. my treat will be time to myself to do as i please.Great to hear @jennifer1967 that you can see what is happening with the bank account. All these little steps forward will add up and that includes the sorting out.
As my old boss said ‘slowly, slowly catches the monkey’
Try and relax and ‘treat’ yourself in some way tomorrow