I care for my mum and it’s like having a child again but much harder. It’s not an enviable job. I’ve had the conversation with my daughter that she is not to care for me if I need it. It’s not a mother daughter situation I’m in now it’s a carer patient one and I don’t want her put in that position. Mum is going in a home shortly because I can’t do this anymore. I don’t think it’s something your kids should feel they have to do (unless they want to) The guilt is enough when you feel bitter towards your parent even though you shouldn’t xx