Reporting Coercive Control

[J0anne]

Mum's carer has used co-ercive control by brainwashing Mum with many lies about me during the past 3 years.

Mum is now in a care home with Alzheimer's and the LPA has lied to the care home to try to keep me away. This has been proved already by my solicitor.

The LPA also told me that she suspected my brother of brainwashing Mum for years. I still have this dialogue.

I just received a copy of Mum's care notes and in there is a statement that I have committed financial abuse towards Mum. I believe Mum's carer suggested this and it isn't true. However I did ask Mum's sister to check Mum's finances, which she did in 2018 and she said everything was alright. I can prove this too.

1- Is this enough information to go to the police to report the co-ercive control?

2- Mum is being cared for with an Alzheimer's diagnosis. Should I point out the brainwashing to the care home and would it benefit Mum's care and any help she is receiving?

Thank you

 

[Grannie G]

If you really feel wronged @JOoanne then do seek advice from the police.

I would advise you against reporting anything to the care home. It might affect your access to your mum.

 

[Bod]

If you can show the LPA holder was acting wrongly, then it's for the Office of the Public Guardian/Court of Protection, to deal with. But don't expect a quick reaction.

Bod

 

[J0anne]

If you really feel wronged @JOoanne then do seek advice from the police.

I would advise you against reporting anything to the care home. It might affect your access to your mum.

Thank you

 

[J0anne]

If you can show the LPA holder was acting wrongly, then it's for the Office of the Public Guardian/Court of Protection, to deal with. But don't expect a quick reaction.

Bod

Thank you. I am already in a dialogue with them. I will call them today before I raise the issue.

 

[Louise7]

Welcome to DTP @J0anne As you have already appointed a solicitor I would suggest that you go back to them about the outstanding issues as this is a complex situation and they will already know the background so will be best placed to advise you. If it would help to talk through the issues, here are the details of the Dementia Connect helpline: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/dementia-connect-support-line

 

[J0anne]

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Thank you for the link. The solicitor did me a favour and I can't afford his services. I've tried others but I've not found any yet that accept legal aid for such matters.