@Sarasa @Jaded'n'faded @lemonbalm -thanks all for your responses. Sorry for not responding sooner-I’ve been catching up on the work I had missed earlier ?. Turns out mum was hungry and wanted to eat early so she had dinner and was much more settled after that.
mum not sure the social worker would sign off on mum and dad going home-even with a care package. We’ve had it before and it just doesn’t work. Mum has always been the dominant one and the organiser. It’s awful to see her dementia manifest itself in her effectively bullying her husband. Dad managed on his own with her for 5 months last year before she was sectioned. I was getting called over several times in the week and was then there all weekend too.
I think a care home will be the solution in the longer term but not the one that is on offer as dad won’t have her there. Other specialist units aren’t local.
I can see it isn’t fair to the kids but it also doesn’t seem far to mum or dad. They have done so much for me, I want to somehow repay that.
I feel like I’ve just joined here and moaned lots though! I’m very sorry for that. Although the warmth and virtual hugs and feeling there are other people out there going through similar things and who care is wonderful! ? Hopefully I can be of support too.