Got up this morning thinking I was going to have a better day. Dream on. Tears over breakfast, tears now.
Tomorrow. As I'm in NZ and MH's rest home is a 90 minute drive from here, I can only go twice a week. At least I can stay as long as I like which is usually 3 to 4 hours. The 3 days in between visits, I'm just living for the next time I can see him again. So wish I could bring him home, but I couldn't provide the same care that he's getting in the home. he is being well looked after, that's all I can say.is it today for visiting? must be horrible not having him there
Thank you @Sarasa Unfortunately nobody to pour things out to. I've found that most people just don't want to listen to you crying and sobbing on their shoulder. My oldest sister who doesn't live anywhere near me just thinks I should have come to terms with the situation by now and got a grip on things. As I now live alone, I tried to arrange a texting system each evening with her so that if I didn't text it would alert her to a possible accident, heart attack etc so she could alert the police to come and check on me, but she didn't want to have a bar of it. I couldn't really care less if I had a cardiac arrest and nobody found me for days, but my concern was for our dog who would be locked inside. Her response was: Well, the worst that might happen is that your dog will eat you! Sadly that's exactly what she said.Hope your visit goes well today, @Pusskins. Do you have other family you can talk to and visit between visits to your husband, to take your mind off things?
@canary It's a funny thing, but I've lived in this town for 20 years and not made any friends until recently. John and I were close and didn't need anybody else. However, I recently made a friend who just might agree to doing that. Certainly worth a try!That is unbelievably uncaring of your sister. She was probably trying to lighten the mood by joking, but its in extremely poor taste.
Do you have a friend living fairly close that you could set up a text scheme with?