Hi. I think my mother have whats called Vascular Dementia. She had a stroke (severe one, including some days in coma, and a tracheotomy) before their 40s.
She is 61 now. Im 28. She have an irrational thinking, but no delutions, she is very obsessive, she is very emotionally sensitive, but also have bursts of anger that makes hard to spend time with her, she is always in a bad mood. She have short memory issues (but long term 100% good).
She likes to critcize compulsively to all people, the neighbours, the people on the TV. She likes to say how superior is too everyone else.
She also feels attacked by other people thinking "they think they are better than me".
She still talks about the family of my father, which they cutted relationship with her since the divorse more than 10 years ago.
She micromanages me when I go to visit her, she asks me to make a hole on the yard, she doesnt like how I do it, she criticize because she thinks Im not using the right tool or Im doing it the right way.
I clean the floor and she doesnt likes the way I do it, or the way I talk, etc, etc, etc.
Her house is a mess ! I can barely walk in the kitchen because is full of stuff, the table is so full sometimes there is no space to even put a plate or a glass with water, the sink is full of stuff.
She dont want to tide up, she "cant see" the mess makes her hard to walk around the house. She feels attacked if I talk her about tide up the house.
This is something really gives me a bad time. Visit her and see the house so disgusting. She doesnt likes to open the windows, and the weather now is so hot, be there its like a torture.
Im honest and say I havent help her the right way this last years, I have lot of problems too. Im the only one who help her and talks with her. She is mad at me, she likes to be vervally passive-agressive with me. And I came to the limit I cant do much.
Im not really looking for advices here. Just to see if I can find other people to relate.
She is 61 now. Im 28. She have an irrational thinking, but no delutions, she is very obsessive, she is very emotionally sensitive, but also have bursts of anger that makes hard to spend time with her, she is always in a bad mood. She have short memory issues (but long term 100% good).
She likes to critcize compulsively to all people, the neighbours, the people on the TV. She likes to say how superior is too everyone else.
She also feels attacked by other people thinking "they think they are better than me".
She still talks about the family of my father, which they cutted relationship with her since the divorse more than 10 years ago.
She micromanages me when I go to visit her, she asks me to make a hole on the yard, she doesnt like how I do it, she criticize because she thinks Im not using the right tool or Im doing it the right way.
I clean the floor and she doesnt likes the way I do it, or the way I talk, etc, etc, etc.
Her house is a mess ! I can barely walk in the kitchen because is full of stuff, the table is so full sometimes there is no space to even put a plate or a glass with water, the sink is full of stuff.
She dont want to tide up, she "cant see" the mess makes her hard to walk around the house. She feels attacked if I talk her about tide up the house.
This is something really gives me a bad time. Visit her and see the house so disgusting. She doesnt likes to open the windows, and the weather now is so hot, be there its like a torture.
Im honest and say I havent help her the right way this last years, I have lot of problems too. Im the only one who help her and talks with her. She is mad at me, she likes to be vervally passive-agressive with me. And I came to the limit I cant do much.
Im not really looking for advices here. Just to see if I can find other people to relate.