So we have found a perfect care home for my mothers onward care, as she is now middle to end stage dementia. I have now doubt that she will be very well cared for and happy there. I have come to terms with the guilt of having to move her into a home as she is now slowly losing the ability for personal care. I now believe that it is kinder to break my promise of not putting her into a home than keeping it, I have to put her needs first. Strangely though, she is now more lucid that has been for a long time, and is refusing to leave her home! Only a few weeks ago, it wasn't her home at all and thought she was staying with someone else! I have to find a way to persuade her out of the house to go - what ways have any of you used to do that? Other than saying that there is work to be done on the house that is noisy and messy that she would not like, or saying that she is going away for a while? I have explained about the home, pushing the point that she would be well looked after and have plenty of company and that as she would be closer to us, we could visit her more often - sadly she is still convinced that she has children in the house and plenty of visitors and cannot bear to leave them! Any advice or tactics greatly appreciated!