I had my visit with mum and it went well. I waited at the entrance door and saw carer coming with mum behind her, when mum saw me she broke into a big smile and said It's our Andie. I waved like a loon and shouted Hello mum. Mum was smiling and said Hello love as carer brought her to door. Mum asked if I was coming in so carer said Sorry she's not allowed in but you can see her through door and I said I can't come in mum but we can have a chat through the glass here and mum and I both moved closer to plain glass on side of door. I asked if I needed to keep my mask on and she said no so I took it off so mum could see and hear me better. I handed mums goody bag in and they got mum a chair. They offered me one but I said I was ok without one but afterwards wished I had as mum was lower than me sat down so I kept bobbing down to her level which is not easy with my arthritic knees but it didn't put me off and it made mum laugh a few times as I bobbed up n down every so often.
Mum looked thinner than last time I saw her but I expected that from what been told by SW and CH, her face was a lot thinner, but she didn't look distressed or ill and she smiled at me a lot during the visit. Her hair had grown and was a bit wavy and slightly wild but looked clean and not as wild as it was before as she's not very good at doing anything with it now. Her clothes looked looser but she looked ok, they were staying up and they were clean. She had a bruise on her arm which she thought was from when she fell last week.
She said she could hear me ok but I couldn't always hear her well but I managed to hear some and guess some bits too. I said You must talk quieter than me mum and she said Thats not like me I used to shout but I don't so much now and laughed. I said We'll have to mime, I know we'll do what I did with (hubby) when I waved him off to work. I pointed to my eye, my heart and then mum (i love you) mum grinned and did it back, I remembered a daft thing we used to, I think off an advert, we used to mime spreading butter and mouth flora, so I said Oh we can do what we used to do when I was little, I did it and mum burst out laughing and did it back, it was lovely she remembered that.
Mum said it was lovely to see me and I told her it was lovely to see her. I told her I'd brought her a goody bag and what was in it, she smiled and said Ooh lovely.
She asked where (my hubby) was and I said in the car cos I'd only gave them my name so I'll bring him next time. Mum said I'm coming home aren't I soon, aren't I coming with you? I said Not today, you've to stay her a bit longer, Mum said Oh ok. Have they said how long? I said No and mum said they hadn't told her either or why so I said The Drs want to keep an eye your for a bit to make sure you're ok. Mum nodded and said she was ok but she'd fallen twice. I told her it's probably cos you're not eating much so you're a bit wobbly. Mum agreed so I said You need to eat a bit more and build your strength back up and mum said I will.
She asked if I was ok and if my hubby was and if we'd been up to anything. I said we hadn't really cos not allowed to go anywhere or mix with people because of corona virus restrictions so we chatted a minute about that being a pain in bum but keeping us safe. I said we were going to supermarket later to pick up our shopping and then to inlaws to drop off FILs birthday present but couldn't go in. Mum asked if I'd got her any shopping which is what she used to say every week when she was at home, I said I've brought you some I gave it them when I came and mum said Oh yes, good thank you love.
Mum asked me if I'd missed her and I said I had, I think about her lots and I love her lots, she smiled and told me she loved me too. She asked if I'd seen W (my dad) I said No, Mum said something about him not being to see her and he was probably with his brother, and something about he was rubbish, she was talking a bit quieter so I didn't catch everything so I just said Well don't bother bout him Mum we're better off without him he was rubbish anyway and she agreed. She asked if I'd seen my sister, I said no cos of restrictions but in touch on phone and said I'll get her on phone so you can see her and wave. Mum said it didn't matter long as was ok but I said sis would like to see her for a minute so face timed my sister and they shouted hello and waved at each other for a couple of minutes.
Mum asked what I'd been doing, I said not a lot cos of restrictions but I showed her a photo of couple of things I'd sewn recently and talked about going on my treadmill, made her laugh doing impression of me on it. We talked about hubby working from home and liking only having a minute commute into kitchen each day and being able to wear his slippers. Mum thought that was funny and joked about him forgetting and wearing slippers when he goes back to work and we laughed about him wearing work clothes and slippers going into a board meeting.
Mum asked about my dad again and I said similar thing as before, she didn't seem too upset by it and after she nodded to agree with me I changed the subject and showed her some photos of my sister grandson on my phone cos she loves that. I told her I'd print some off as proper photos for next week and she could put them in her photo box which she was pleased about.
Mums hair has grown so I said I'd take her a bobble next week so she could put it up if she wanted. Mum said mine looked nice and I looked pretty. Bless her I joked about my skin being bit spotty and how last week I had a big zit on my chin so I'd been glad I could cover it up with a mask which had us joking about masks and I stood behind one of the pumpkin stickers on the window so my eyes were in the eye holes which mum laughed even more at. Mum asked if I'd come again and I said I would, hopefully next week and mum said Lovely and gave me a big smile .
Mum asked again if I knew how long she had to stay there, I said I didn't know, mum said they hadn't told her why or how long. I said the DRs want to keep an eye on you. Mum said Why? I said I think it's since you fell they want to make sure you're ok and they gave you some new tablets so they'll want to make sure you are ok on them. She nodded and said Aye they will. She didn't seem too bothered by it. I said You need to get stronger, you'll have to start eating some more and mum nodded. I said You need some spinach like popeye and flexed my arm like I had muscles and mum laughed. I said At least you've plenty of people to talk to here haven't you and mum said Aye and smiled. I mentioned the deputy manager said mum made him laugh and I'd told him mum was funny and liked a laugh and mum smiled at that and told me he was nice. I asked mum if she'd been doing her colouring and mum looked a bit sad and said Not much I forget. I said have you been doing your puzzles then and mum said she had, I told her I'd brought her a new puzzle book and she was pleased with that. I asked her if there was anything she wanted me to bring next time, she didn't think so. I told her I'd brought her some more sweets and biscuits and crisps which she was pleased about. I asked if she was eating them all and she said Sometimes I forget, don't know if I've still got some and she looked a bit sad again. I said Oh well I've brought you some more today so you'll have plenty now and you can eat those which made her smile again.
We chatted bit about strictly and then mum asked if I was going to come again so I said Hopefully next week, she said Lovely, ok I'll let you go then love. I'd been there about 20 minutes by then. She stood up and was a little bit slow and wobbly, I asked if she was ok and she said Aye my knees have gone a bit. I told her to be careful and to try eating a bit more to build her strength back up. Mum said she would and held her waist of her trousers out to show me the gap which was quite big, mum has always had a bit of a belly but it's gone now.
I said Try eat more cos I want to fatten you back up a bit and build your strength up. Mum said I will love and smiled. She went to take chair away but I told her to leave it there and they'd move it for her cos I didn't want her struggling with it. Mum said Ok and came back to glass, we chatted again for another 5minutes then mum said I'll see you next time then love. I wasn't sure how long visit was supposed to be but mum looked like she was ready to go and still looked happy so I thought it was probably a good time to go, we'd had about 25 minutes so I said Ok. Mum said something I didn't hear, I said What? but still didn't hear when she said it again. Mum said You're not getting it are you love, I shook my head and mum smiled and said Not to worry love I'll tell you next time. I asked if she was sure and she said Oh yes, I'll see you next time love. We said love you lots and mimed ?❤? again and mum went to go, I asked mum to let someone know to let me out and mum said Oh yes you can't just open things to get out and laughed, She looked up and down corridor then saw a carer and said She's here, carer asked mum if she was ok and mum said Yes love, carer asked Have you enjoyed it and mum said Yes it was lovely. I said Thank you to carer. I said bye, love you lots again and waved, mum was waiting in corridor and waved back before I left.
I was so pleased mum had recognised me and was pleased to see me and although she looked thinner and older she looked quite well. She did ask a couple of times about how she was long staying there and also about my dad but she didn't seem that upset when I answered her and moved onto something else quite quickly. She looked a bit sad for a moment a couple of times too but mostly she smiled and laughed a lot even though we couldn't always hear what saying, I rambled on and tried to keep her smiling and laughing and she looked like she enjoyed our visit.
I hope she went away happy and it didn't make her miss us more.?