Hello
This is my first post.
My mother's doctor advised me to look for support so here I am and thank you in advance for being there.
My mother has vascular dementia and mixed type Alzheimer. I think she is quite progressed with it but am not sure as doctor says everyone is different.
I was hoping you could help with some advice please.
My mother has recently taken to crying and whining all the time and getting worse- the last two months or so.
She has been living in extra care accommodation for the last 7 months and I support her care there even throughout Covid because she is a high needs case with other disabilities.
It's the crying and whining I'm having trouble with - it's when I'm with her, when I'm on the phone to her which is all the time.
It's pushing me to my limits and grating my nerves no end. I've discussed it with the consultant but it doesn't seem to have made any difference. My mother has basically become completely incompetent at literally everything despite being able to when pushed.
The carers say she's fine, only cries with me, or it's the dementia progressing and it is I'm sure the dementia related upset, anxiety, worry, fear which is awful for her but for me to stay with her day and night 24/7 which is what she wants is just not an option - I know I couldn't cope and I feel guilty enough as it is that I can't give her what she wants. But I also don't know what to do.
My question is -
Does anyone else experience this crying and whining (or is alot of it for my benefit)
Any suggestions on how to address it please?
Thank you kindly for your time.
Grace
This is my first post.
My mother's doctor advised me to look for support so here I am and thank you in advance for being there.
My mother has vascular dementia and mixed type Alzheimer. I think she is quite progressed with it but am not sure as doctor says everyone is different.
I was hoping you could help with some advice please.
My mother has recently taken to crying and whining all the time and getting worse- the last two months or so.
She has been living in extra care accommodation for the last 7 months and I support her care there even throughout Covid because she is a high needs case with other disabilities.
It's the crying and whining I'm having trouble with - it's when I'm with her, when I'm on the phone to her which is all the time.
It's pushing me to my limits and grating my nerves no end. I've discussed it with the consultant but it doesn't seem to have made any difference. My mother has basically become completely incompetent at literally everything despite being able to when pushed.
The carers say she's fine, only cries with me, or it's the dementia progressing and it is I'm sure the dementia related upset, anxiety, worry, fear which is awful for her but for me to stay with her day and night 24/7 which is what she wants is just not an option - I know I couldn't cope and I feel guilty enough as it is that I can't give her what she wants. But I also don't know what to do.
My question is -
Does anyone else experience this crying and whining (or is alot of it for my benefit)
Any suggestions on how to address it please?
Thank you kindly for your time.
Grace