hi
Apologies for the ridiculously long post!
Since nans alzheimers started becoming noticeable and while we were waiting for the results, nan started getting verbally aggressive and i was the one it was always aimed at. Other family members were luckily not treated the same way, and she could be vile to me in one breath and nice as pie to them literally in the next.
We are currently in the process of selling her property and moving her to a retirement place where she will be a lot safer. I spoke to her yesterday at 8am and she was perfectly fine, but i did mention that I needed her bank card details to give the solicitors for the searches.
By 11am I had a phone call telling me she wasn't moving and she hung the phone up on me. About 5 minutes after that I got a phone call from a worried taxi driver about a job he had just done with my nan. Luckily his wife works with people with dementia and he knew straight away something wasn't right and was clever enough to manage to get my number off her mobile.
Anyway, in this taxi ride she is saying that I have told her a huge lie and she isnt moving anymore, and also that she was going to the bank to draw out £2000 which first was for me and then was for someone coming around later that afternoon.
Obviously that was a concern so my sister drove an hour with 2 babies to go and see what on earth is going on. She said nan was quite dishevelled and that her eyes didn't look right (she started meds this week, has anyone known of a worsening after taking them?), but that basically nan found an old letter from either the memory nurse or the hospital where I had mentioned that she has let people into her home. This has now culminated in her mind that I am telling people she is "mentally retarded" and taking her money, so she doesnt want me acting on her behalf with the move.
She also called both sets of estate agents, and the purchasing agent is now starting to get concerned that nan isn't well enough to live there.
I have decided that I now need to back away because I cant have anyone even have a tiny thought in their heads that I would possibly take anything from her, so I am going to look at removing myself from the POA and I also want her to remove me from her will.
I feel bad that my sister is going to have to deal with this on her own, but i have told her I will support her in the background with whatever she needs, but i will no longer be visiting or calling nan.
I know people say "oh its just the illness" but this is just the beginning of her journey and it is going to get a whole lot worse, and i just can't mentally put myself through that.
Apologies for the ridiculously long post!
Since nans alzheimers started becoming noticeable and while we were waiting for the results, nan started getting verbally aggressive and i was the one it was always aimed at. Other family members were luckily not treated the same way, and she could be vile to me in one breath and nice as pie to them literally in the next.
We are currently in the process of selling her property and moving her to a retirement place where she will be a lot safer. I spoke to her yesterday at 8am and she was perfectly fine, but i did mention that I needed her bank card details to give the solicitors for the searches.
By 11am I had a phone call telling me she wasn't moving and she hung the phone up on me. About 5 minutes after that I got a phone call from a worried taxi driver about a job he had just done with my nan. Luckily his wife works with people with dementia and he knew straight away something wasn't right and was clever enough to manage to get my number off her mobile.
Anyway, in this taxi ride she is saying that I have told her a huge lie and she isnt moving anymore, and also that she was going to the bank to draw out £2000 which first was for me and then was for someone coming around later that afternoon.
Obviously that was a concern so my sister drove an hour with 2 babies to go and see what on earth is going on. She said nan was quite dishevelled and that her eyes didn't look right (she started meds this week, has anyone known of a worsening after taking them?), but that basically nan found an old letter from either the memory nurse or the hospital where I had mentioned that she has let people into her home. This has now culminated in her mind that I am telling people she is "mentally retarded" and taking her money, so she doesnt want me acting on her behalf with the move.
She also called both sets of estate agents, and the purchasing agent is now starting to get concerned that nan isn't well enough to live there.
I have decided that I now need to back away because I cant have anyone even have a tiny thought in their heads that I would possibly take anything from her, so I am going to look at removing myself from the POA and I also want her to remove me from her will.
I feel bad that my sister is going to have to deal with this on her own, but i have told her I will support her in the background with whatever she needs, but i will no longer be visiting or calling nan.
I know people say "oh its just the illness" but this is just the beginning of her journey and it is going to get a whole lot worse, and i just can't mentally put myself through that.