Upset about carehome decision
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I was exactly like you I’m ok know as I know were it stands . Theees loads dementia social care pages on line look on court of protection page and social care institute got I at the end can’t remeber the last bit it’s all on there read everything it’ll readier you .im only a friend I can do it you’re her carer if my case is strong so will you’re a be loDs information on this helpful reassured me before lawyer was involved
Yes I did too I loved doing it for my friend she deserved the best it was her family had thick skin had hold it in
Dear @DILhelp,
You will because it takes a lot of strength caring for someone with dementia and dealing with invisibles. You have to remember that invisibles haven't got the strength that we have and because they're envious of us they have to take it out in other ways.
Also I hope @SkyBlueC is okay.
MaNaAk
You will because it takes a lot of strength caring for someone with dementia and dealing with invisibles. You have to remember that invisibles haven't got the strength that we have and because they're envious of us they have to take it out in other ways.
Also I hope @SkyBlueC is okay.
MaNaAk
@canary Yes I am in England, we do own our house and wouldn't qualify for financial help towards his care. If I contact Social Services for an assessment, not sure what that entails or what they are assessing, am I obliged to accept what they suggest or would it be better to get help from the private agencies. I just don't know how these things work and can't get at to find out. To me it will signify the beginning of the end and I don't like the thought of having strangers in the house especially with Covid-19 about but it is getting more difficult by the week, whether it is him or my growing inability to cope alone, probably a bit of both. You have been very kind and I thank you, it means a lot to me.
Hi @Jan L , This link should take you to the Alz Soc section about what an assessment entails and about how its decided who pays. As I said, though, your house will not be counted (it is a mandatory disregard) all the while you are living in it and its only your husbands finances that are counted - bank accounts in his sole name, or 50% of joint ones. If his share of the savings comes to more than £25,000, then you will be self-funding. Under this and the Local Authority will start to pay towards it.
www.alzheimers.org.uk
Having carers in can be a godsend. I reached carers breakdown just before Christmas and OH had to go into respite. I was told (in pretty much no uncertain terms) that I had to have carers and it has been a revelation. They may be strangers to start with, but they have quickly become more like compassionate and capable friends. OH likes them and responds to them - probably better than he does to me! They have come all through the pandemic and have arrived in PPE - face shields, plastic aprons and gloves and have all been scrupulous about cleaning. I do not worry about them bringing in covid - I think Im much more likely to pick it up in a supermarket, where people often do not wear masks (or not properly) and dont keep at the proper distance. Having carers has made such a difference to my life, it makes things so much easier to cope with. I know that Im going to have help with the practicalities and nothing fazes them. Yesterday OH got poo all over his hands and in the bed, but the carer cleaned him up, stripped the bed, put the soiled bedding in the washing machine and re=made the bed. I can also ask about things that are concerning me - have they seen this too? Is it something I should worry about?
I would honestly give them a go.
Assessment for care and support in England
What are care assessments and how can people with dementia and their carers access them? This information is for care and support in England.
www.alzheimers.org.uk
Having carers in can be a godsend. I reached carers breakdown just before Christmas and OH had to go into respite. I was told (in pretty much no uncertain terms) that I had to have carers and it has been a revelation. They may be strangers to start with, but they have quickly become more like compassionate and capable friends. OH likes them and responds to them - probably better than he does to me! They have come all through the pandemic and have arrived in PPE - face shields, plastic aprons and gloves and have all been scrupulous about cleaning. I do not worry about them bringing in covid - I think Im much more likely to pick it up in a supermarket, where people often do not wear masks (or not properly) and dont keep at the proper distance. Having carers has made such a difference to my life, it makes things so much easier to cope with. I know that Im going to have help with the practicalities and nothing fazes them. Yesterday OH got poo all over his hands and in the bed, but the carer cleaned him up, stripped the bed, put the soiled bedding in the washing machine and re=made the bed. I can also ask about things that are concerning me - have they seen this too? Is it something I should worry about?
I would honestly give them a go.
You could also be entitled to quite a few benefits for example council tax reduction, pension credits etc. However don't make the mistake I made with regards to Attendance Allowance! I filled in the form and when dad received the lower rate I thought this was what we were entitled to. I even mentioned wandering out of the house at night! Anyway I should have been even clearer and insisted on the higher rate as I was being woken up in the middle of the night and getting dad back to bed. I didn't find out about all this until I checked on dad's benefits when he went into the home and I found that he was still entitled to the benefits in the home!
Good luck
MaNaAk
