Evening. Ive spoken with my mum again today with regards to ger being my step fathers carer. He has vascular dementia. Im guessing middle to late stages ? He is 81 and at times difficult. He now is unable to do much. My mum is 71 and disabled through a rta many years ago, he was her carer but now roles reversed. I read last night about she could have a carers appointment with social services. Im guessig its to see if they can offer her any help etc ? Mum agreed to me making contact with ss but now this evening has panicked and said not t bother, she thinks they will put him in a home against her will. Or he will refuse any help etc has anyone else been through this or can advise ? Its all on her shoulders and last week her depression hit and jut crued all week and having mobility issues.