Hi everyone
My 73 year old Mum has over the past couple of weeks been diagnosed with Mixed dementia - vascular and Alzheimers. She also has a longer tem mental health diagnosis of schizo affective disorder which has been ever present all of my life. This is no surprise and is in fact a relief that she can hopefully access more services.
Mum doesnt remember that she has been diagosed with these conditions from day to day and completely denies that there is anything wrong with her. I have her car at the moment for fear that she will drive it before contacting the DVLA and following that process throughwhich is causing major problems. She is not eating properly, carries her ipad, house deeds, around with her in big carrier bags for fear that someone is going to come in the house and steal them. She loses her keys constantly, and is convinced someone is coming into the house and moving things.
She denies that she needs any support from carers. She calls my sister and I around 20 times a day and definately is forgetting to eat. She ifiercely refuses to believe there is anything wrong with her - this is also how she has behaved for as long as i can remember due to her mental health condition.
. I dont know how to convince her she needs more support than we can emotionally and practically give her. She point blank refuses to engages with the process of power of attorney which would make supporting her so much more simple. So it;s frustration and anger i feel - at needing to dig even deeper into an already empty bucket of patience, tolerance, emotional support - and then guilt and sadness, about feeling resentful about that and that this is happening- so hard to see her so anxious most of the time. I. Feel completely overwhelmed.
Any advice much appreciated.
My 73 year old Mum has over the past couple of weeks been diagnosed with Mixed dementia - vascular and Alzheimers. She also has a longer tem mental health diagnosis of schizo affective disorder which has been ever present all of my life. This is no surprise and is in fact a relief that she can hopefully access more services.
Mum doesnt remember that she has been diagosed with these conditions from day to day and completely denies that there is anything wrong with her. I have her car at the moment for fear that she will drive it before contacting the DVLA and following that process throughwhich is causing major problems. She is not eating properly, carries her ipad, house deeds, around with her in big carrier bags for fear that someone is going to come in the house and steal them. She loses her keys constantly, and is convinced someone is coming into the house and moving things.
She denies that she needs any support from carers. She calls my sister and I around 20 times a day and definately is forgetting to eat. She ifiercely refuses to believe there is anything wrong with her - this is also how she has behaved for as long as i can remember due to her mental health condition.
. I dont know how to convince her she needs more support than we can emotionally and practically give her. She point blank refuses to engages with the process of power of attorney which would make supporting her so much more simple. So it;s frustration and anger i feel - at needing to dig even deeper into an already empty bucket of patience, tolerance, emotional support - and then guilt and sadness, about feeling resentful about that and that this is happening- so hard to see her so anxious most of the time. I. Feel completely overwhelmed.
Any advice much appreciated.