I'm sorry for you loss @bdmid its a cruel situation to have been in and have to resolve as well -my thoughts are with you
@Wifenotcarer I was just reading peoples thoughts about bringing their loved ones home from the CH. I was chatting with a close friend last night who was genuinely trying to be helpful and said why don't I bring mum home, but its not that simple. I think in my situation its fairly obvious mum is in the final throws of her dementia journey, unfortunate;y at a time when I can't visit. I did think for a moment that might be possible but its really isn't as she has now progressed. I would have to give up work to care for her which I can't do, mostly because the hospital won't grant unpaid leave as things are with coronavirus. Even if I did give up work I would need extra help which at the moment would be exceptionally difficult to get. It pains me to make the decision to continue, but there really aren't any other alternatives and mum is better off in the CH because they can access services such as the GP, dieticians and palliative care far quicker than I can as well as being safe and provisions made for supplies, unlike me on my own.
The bain of my existence now and many on here is to be constantly thinking about our loved ones and the anxiety on some days is overwhelming, worse than when I worried about mum when she was at home sometimes. The only comfort I draw is from mums own outlook and stoism she would have said something like 'well if this is what I have to do, then I have to do it'
The other thing to consider is that with the coronavirus its not always obvious in who is infected and it may be a case of jumping out of the pan into the fire (to coin another one of mums lifelong phrases).
@Wifenotcarer I was just reading peoples thoughts about bringing their loved ones home from the CH. I was chatting with a close friend last night who was genuinely trying to be helpful and said why don't I bring mum home, but its not that simple. I think in my situation its fairly obvious mum is in the final throws of her dementia journey, unfortunate;y at a time when I can't visit. I did think for a moment that might be possible but its really isn't as she has now progressed. I would have to give up work to care for her which I can't do, mostly because the hospital won't grant unpaid leave as things are with coronavirus. Even if I did give up work I would need extra help which at the moment would be exceptionally difficult to get. It pains me to make the decision to continue, but there really aren't any other alternatives and mum is better off in the CH because they can access services such as the GP, dieticians and palliative care far quicker than I can as well as being safe and provisions made for supplies, unlike me on my own.
The bain of my existence now and many on here is to be constantly thinking about our loved ones and the anxiety on some days is overwhelming, worse than when I worried about mum when she was at home sometimes. The only comfort I draw is from mums own outlook and stoism she would have said something like 'well if this is what I have to do, then I have to do it'
The other thing to consider is that with the coronavirus its not always obvious in who is infected and it may be a case of jumping out of the pan into the fire (to coin another one of mums lifelong phrases).
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