Thank you...I stopped looking at my phone for a day because I was finding it hard to cope, and to find your message was really appreciated. These last few weeks must have been so stressful for you, I hope it's working out ok for your partner..and you. I keep thinking if I had the energy and could write down the whole sorry story and scream it from the rooftops to anyone and everyone so that they could understand how hard this all is..uneccessarily hard, uneccessarily complicated, being given different information /no information and all of the time never knowing if you did the right thing. If you do decide to write your war and peace...I'll help? thanks for replying
Thankyou for your replies and suggestions. I finally managed to speak to a nursing home manager who was very honest and told me what the situation was in her home and how they would manage dad etc. It was awful in that they do have cases of the virus in staff and residents, but so reassuring to speak to someone who was willing to be honest and realistic about the situation. I'm now trying to come to terms with being the person who decided to send dad from a place which has so far been corona free to somewhere where it undoubtedly is..as the care home manager said, they have had it in there long enough to set up procedures and they have ppe sorted and possibly staff who have already had it and are therefore immune.
I will try and see if there is a hospital social worker who can help from here as the social services social worker has been no help at all..in fact its the way she has presented things and her lack of understanding of dementia or anything really that has put me in this state..feeling like I just can't find out anything without hours of trawling through helpsheets and factsheets
Arghhh, time for a cup of tea and a calm down, thankyou though for your support. I'm sure im not alone in that the irony of all of this is that my dad would have been the only person in our family that I could have turned to to talk this through...onward...
Hi Delia63. Hope you’re finally getting the support you need. Myself and the family have been very fortunate to have access to a very supportive hospital social worker, an Admiral Nurse from the same place, and the Older Peoples Mental Health Team.
Despite all of this, here I am at 5.30am, replying on here, as you’ve rightly stated, it’s the guilt and worry that gets you ? along with the sleep deprivation....
I think all of us on here feel the guilt, and wander if we could have done more.
For me and you it’s particularly difficult, as we’ve always been there, caring and supporting our loved ones, either at home or in hospital. To suddenly have that stopped, and knowing you’re not going to see them for however long this Covid19 situation continues, is a devastating blow.
If you have close friends and family, please speak to them. I find myself apologising for talking too long on the phone, but they’re all very understanding. It helps me stop bottling everything up, even if it’s for a short while.
As I’ve previously said, I’m not going to go into my own personal situation, but please be assured that, as our situations are so similar, we can support eachother, aided by other members on here.
I know you’ll have a lot to sort out at this point in time, but if at all possible, give yourself some space. I’m lucky to have an allotment and garden.
Take care, I’m anticipating another few phone calls today. Admin, as the family call it ??
