my mother who is 83 spends the majority of her day lying down, cannot do anything for herself. if I bring her up to my house, as i live upstairs to her, she climbs the stairs and walks to front room and lies down on couch all day, never sits. I get photos out for her to look at, she watches tv, she falls asleep, if I suggest taking her out she is all for it, and she enjoys that, even if its just driving around in the car and showing her things, she cannot remember much but always remembers where she used to live, I found that mam is eating less now, I tend to give her sloppy sort of food, but she will eat sandwiches. I insist she sits up at a table before I feed her, mostly to stop her bedclothes getting full of food and spilling food on the floor etc, she basically does as shes told until I leave her. Then she empties cupboards and there is always things moved, she opens her curtains for example every morning. I make sure she has bottles of water to drink when im not there to keep her hydrated. I think maybe you have to lie a little to keep them happy. I never ask her if shes hungry as she always says no im fine. I just make it and put it down to her and she tends to have a go at it. sometimes I think maybe they have forgotten they haven't eaten etc. maybe try and talk her into getting up, as in, come and look at this out the window etc, would you help me find something , she is probably tired, bored, and yes finds it easier to lie there, but if you can try and get her up , maybe say the doctor said you have to walk around the house a little, its very hard and takes up most of your waking day looking after them. my mother today has just put an incontinence pad down the toilet and blocked it all up, with not a care in the world. this is a disease where they don't or cannot make sensible decisions. and you have to think for them. try and keep them moving even if its a little each day, how about a walker, she may feel weak with lying about so much so hasn't got the strength or desire to get up , good luck and take a little time off for yourself sometimes