Hi there, this is my first post so not sure I’m in right place!
Mum is in later stages of dementia, she’s mobile but has lost all power of speech and is doubly incontinent. She has just gone into a care home after my Dad couldn’t cope anymore - he has done an amazing job but 5 years after diagnosis, the toll of caring is simply too much for his own health. Sadly, I live a few hundred miles away hence he has been largely coping on his own, day to day.
So the social worker suggested this care home, which is a dementia facility in East Yorkshire and mum has a bed in the extreme part of the unit. She appears more with it physically than other residents but cannot speak or communicate. I visited today (day 3 ) and she sobbed several times. The place itself seems OK, but I’m just not sure about the staff. They were few and far between, didn’t know which room she was in, let me go and try a couple to see if I could recognise her stuff (surprising). She seems so sad and unable to communicate her needs or wants and I’m not convinced these staff I met today would persevere in helping her communicate. She had a previous experience in respite care which wasn’t in such a nice environment but the staff were warm and caring. I really don’t know how we will know that she is ok ‘enough’? I just want to bring her home again, which also isn’t possible.
Mum is in later stages of dementia, she’s mobile but has lost all power of speech and is doubly incontinent. She has just gone into a care home after my Dad couldn’t cope anymore - he has done an amazing job but 5 years after diagnosis, the toll of caring is simply too much for his own health. Sadly, I live a few hundred miles away hence he has been largely coping on his own, day to day.
So the social worker suggested this care home, which is a dementia facility in East Yorkshire and mum has a bed in the extreme part of the unit. She appears more with it physically than other residents but cannot speak or communicate. I visited today (day 3 ) and she sobbed several times. The place itself seems OK, but I’m just not sure about the staff. They were few and far between, didn’t know which room she was in, let me go and try a couple to see if I could recognise her stuff (surprising). She seems so sad and unable to communicate her needs or wants and I’m not convinced these staff I met today would persevere in helping her communicate. She had a previous experience in respite care which wasn’t in such a nice environment but the staff were warm and caring. I really don’t know how we will know that she is ok ‘enough’? I just want to bring her home again, which also isn’t possible.