It is. And then on the other hand very grateful and thanking me ,upsetting when he looks bewildered as he has no idea of what time of day it is and when it gets dark and thinks it is bedtime .last night he was up about 6 times and thinks when he's awake it's time to get up and for me to be .but have to say last night was the ist time to be up so many times in a while and I hope it's not the new drug he's on unsettling him as the other one gave him nightmares and when I stopped them so did the nightmares and back to just waking normal a couple of times so I hope this new drug isn't the cause. Must be awful for him not knowing what time of day it is.
Oh my lovely, I can tell myMum things til I’m blue in the face but if my OH or daughter tell her then that’s accepted & not. Questioned!
Frustrating & annoying as it is that is the way it’s going to be!
by altering your acceptance of aggressive behaviour can be helpful, as can talking very softly & very calmly. Extremely difficult when you are emotional / upset.
The getting up in the middle of the night, oh my lovely I could get Dad back into another bed & tuck him in & give him a cuddle.
I found that he didn’t recognise where he was. Covering mirrors helps as does a strict routine at bedtime. Making sure a snack is had before bed each night, & a sealed pack of biscuits available in case of middle of the night munchies. A flip bottle of water incase of thirst - no spill variety.
A timed night light in the hall helps as well, night light on = bedtime. I also had classic fm on for Dad at bedtime & found the music soothed. The absolute quietness didn’t help Dads dementia.
Maybe have a flask of hot water by your bed each night then if he wakes & wanders a small cup of instant Horlicks might trigger night time bed routines.
hope this helps a bit.
sadly eventually dementia takes a course that we all struggle with
take care
Xx