Mum has been having carers since September 2019. The first agency we used visited 3 times a week for lunch and tea time visit. After some issues such as lack of communication we changed the agency and reduced the visits to twice a week for one and a half hours at lunchtimes. We realised that mum was never going to be told to have a shower and resigned ourselves to at least she was getting some social interaction. However at the moment she refuses to engage with them and just tells them to go all the time and doesn’t understand why they are here. I have been living with mum now for 5 weeks so the need for cleaning and making lunch is not so necessary so it really a respite for me although I am now getting messages from the carer to say that mum is agitated etc. The carer is exhausted as mum is openly hostile towards her and doesn’t engage. I’m not sure that we should continue on with them but am worried that if we disengage now we have no back up plan and also thought it would get mum used to it when she eventually has to go to a CH. Has anyone else gone through this,does it get better or should we just throw in the towel and stop wasting our money. I do go out when we don’t have carers there so mum is left on her own and I generally get around 9 calls an hour.