Can I demand a meeting to see all the notes on my OH.Also to make sure that as he doesn't need 24 hour care, is he taking the correct meds to make him sleep all night.He also told someone about disagreements at home.His second wife used to hit him,she was a schizophrenic.He often asks for iris his ex wife.I think they think it is me who is hitting him. I only retaliate when he strikes the first blow or I try to stop him hitting me
Do ask for a meeting and explain all this... It makes clear how confused your husband is and that in his mind he is being returned to an unsafe environment .. And don't worry if you break down in tears, they need to know just how much this is affecting you
Are you able to write out a set of bullet points detailing everything that concerns you, all you have mentioned here (or print out your posts here) as anyone you give a copy to must note the info you give them so it will go on all their files for you to refer them back to in the future
Tough as this may be, can you not engage in your husband's care at all so it is as though he lives alone... this may show your situation for what it is and lead to a crisis.. Not what you really want I know... they may insist he goes home but no-one has the right to force an adult to look after another adult
in the care package, tell them some day care is needed as you both need a break from each other
Keep posting, we can't change all this: we can offer support and sympathy
Sadly there have been other members put in this situation... Hard as this will br