So, I've been running around TRYING to sort out extra carers to come during the day for half every now and then, justnto check on him and make coffee. Even though he says he wont let them in. At least I've tried. I think he thinks I won't go but hes wrong . Mind you , he had a fall yesterday morning early about 4-30, he didnt hurt himself but I vouldnt get him up so had to use the life line, much to his disgust, he kept telling me not to.. paramedics came and got him up, checked him over and he was ok. But I thought what would happen if that had been when i wasnt there.
But a lady from adult social care rang me today, was chatting to her for ages, she asked if I wanted him assessed again and of course I said yes, I think that's because I asked her about the CAPACITY word. Anyway she started saying not to worry unduly about him not letting carers in, hes refused to have them, refused respite, so hes made the decision that hes ok on his own so he has to face the consequences of how he gets on, she said it sounds cruel but if he falls and a carer finds him he would have to ho to hospital, and then that when I say I dont want him home, it's too unsafe for him, and told me to go with my daughter, and not to worry about him !!!!
Shes coming next week to assess him. But one reassuring thing is my son is going to stay overnight with him, which I'm pleased about although he doesn't get home from work till about 7-30 and leaves at about 6-30min morning. but better than not at all.