There are three of us, two sons and me (daughter) supporting our Mother who lives alone after my father died in January last year and shortly afterwards Mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers (although we had known that she had difficulty with her memory for the previous four years but she refused to see a GP about it). We are all in our 60's and working so we support mum each Saturday, taking her to do her weekly shop. We also take her to various hospital and doctors' appointments, arranged for a gardener to come on a regular basis and a podiatrist. None of us live in the same town so it takes time to travel to and fro as well as the time we spend with Mum which we have to fit in with work and our family commitments. We also do maintenance work around the bungalow etc. Mum misses dad terribly which is understandable as they had been together 70 years but recently she has become more demanding of us and critical. She has no friends and will not go to a lunch club or day centre to get out of the bungalow and meet new people. The number of phone calls she makes to us demanding attention has ranked up, last month she made a total of 420 to our landlines. Some days it is relentless and you can come home to 18 messages each one getting more aggressive and insulting because we haven't answered, simply because we are not in (which Mum can obviously not comprehend). Now she want to come and live with one of us because she doesn't want to be alone and wants some company and someone to 'care' for her. Our lifestyles are not compatable for several reasons and we have each tried to explain this but because of the Alzheimers she cannot understand or appreciate this and she just becomes angry and threatens to 'walk the streets'. We have very recently had a couple of concerning incidents where she claimed she had got in a car with a couple of complete strangers. We recently all met with her GP, who was very good at explaining to her that we do care and are concerned for her safety and talked about living somewhere with support e.g. Extra Care which she has flatly refused in the past thinking it was a Care Home. He asked her to go and look at a particular scheme and then we would meet again. We have an appointment to look round the schem next week but Mum is already saying she won't go and live there anyway. She can't remember the meeting with the GP and is trying emotional blackmail on each one of us to get us to agree for her to live with us. Sadly, the more aggressive and critical she becomes the more emotionally draining it is and now all three of us are depressed and dread going to see her as we don't know what she will be like. We don't want her to be frightened and do want her to live someone safer where she would have the option to live independently but also have the opportunity to make friends with others living in the scheme and join in activities if she wanted to. We would like her to be happy and live the best life she can but she is so negative about everything that it is really draining. She left her key in her front door the other day and it was fortunate my brother found it as anyone could have let themselves in - if she did that in an Extra Care scheme she would still be safe. Has anyone encountered this difficulty and how did you manage the situation?