He started a couple years ago. I would correct the behavior by bringing him home (usually catching him in the yard/trying to go outside without me) and giving something to do. He stopped for a while, but it's started again and now it's to the point where he'll sneak off while I am sleeping or distracted. He will wander around or get into porches and open garages or sit on swings. There's a specific neighbor he has been to, he lays or naps in their gazebo or tries going in their house to eat food.
I try paying attention closely but I am a single mom with a lot of work under short time periods plus cooking specific meals due to his food sensitivities and going to the bathroom/showering a lot due to incon and menstrual issues. At least once a day I will find him in the yard or go down the street to get him. I'll catch him opening the door and I have to physically prompt (grab his arm and guide him somewhere else, or hold lightly and coax him until he lets me walk him to the TV or his computer or to eat). I stay up a bit anyway though eventually I do need sleep and he is on sleeping meds but sometimes wakes up at night.
He does it even if I correct or explain. I will not restrain him if there are other options. I have tried talking to him but he won't keep conversations especially serious ones. He refuses to talk to counselor about this and will not listen to anyone. I have put locks on the door and we have a fence, and he finds his way. Today he created a distraction by waiting until I walked away and pouring his drink near my work computer and phone (which he knows I'm going to panic about and clean up asap), and walked into our yard. I correct his behavior and give distraction, and he does have time outside, but it has no affect. He has gotten lost and will break down crying and people yell and make it worse. When I find him, he sometimes does not get in the car unless I physically prompt him or baby him. I told the neighbors about his condition and asked for some support, and they don't understand and they ignore him or just tell him to go home or call the cops and scare son. Two neighbors feed him (enforce this and endanger him) or harass him by jokingly calling out "come here".
I try paying attention closely but I am a single mom with a lot of work under short time periods plus cooking specific meals due to his food sensitivities and going to the bathroom/showering a lot due to incon and menstrual issues. At least once a day I will find him in the yard or go down the street to get him. I'll catch him opening the door and I have to physically prompt (grab his arm and guide him somewhere else, or hold lightly and coax him until he lets me walk him to the TV or his computer or to eat). I stay up a bit anyway though eventually I do need sleep and he is on sleeping meds but sometimes wakes up at night.
He does it even if I correct or explain. I will not restrain him if there are other options. I have tried talking to him but he won't keep conversations especially serious ones. He refuses to talk to counselor about this and will not listen to anyone. I have put locks on the door and we have a fence, and he finds his way. Today he created a distraction by waiting until I walked away and pouring his drink near my work computer and phone (which he knows I'm going to panic about and clean up asap), and walked into our yard. I correct his behavior and give distraction, and he does have time outside, but it has no affect. He has gotten lost and will break down crying and people yell and make it worse. When I find him, he sometimes does not get in the car unless I physically prompt him or baby him. I told the neighbors about his condition and asked for some support, and they don't understand and they ignore him or just tell him to go home or call the cops and scare son. Two neighbors feed him (enforce this and endanger him) or harass him by jokingly calling out "come here".
