When my mum was diagnosed with dementia we organised LPAs for both my mum and dad. After mum died, we went through hell for a few months before dad was also diagnosed with mixed type dementia - we didn't understand that his behaviour was caused by an illness: he was aggressive and demanding. Also, he would wander round neighbourhood causing problems for neighbours etc. In short, he was a handful. Eventually he had a fall and ended up in hospital with a dislocated shoulder. We arranged for him to be discharged to a care home where he has been for 18 months. We managed to get CHC funding which has so far saved him about £50,000. The funding was recently withdrawn because dad's behaviour has calmed down drastically. The withdrawal of funding and his radically changed behaviour - he sleeps a lot of the time, his mobility is severely reduced, he is no longer agitated, distressed and aggressive - led me to reflect that we could now probably manage my dad at home. I am sure his living conditions would be better - his home wouldn't smell of pee, he wouldn't be surrounded by people with dementia, his clothes wouldn't constantly get lost, he would get home cooked meals, he would be with his family.
However, I have a horrible paranoia that the Social Services and the care home will try to keep him in the care home as a self-funder. Could they do this? What can I do to make it less likely that they could?
However, I have a horrible paranoia that the Social Services and the care home will try to keep him in the care home as a self-funder. Could they do this? What can I do to make it less likely that they could?