Dear All,
My OH and I have seen these issues at first hand on two periods recently, The first was when my wife fell from our bed, as a result of a Urinary Tract Infection in April. She was in a Community Hospital for seven weeks, where she overcame the UTI, then went down with a chest infection; recovered from that to go down with another UTI; then another chest infection, and came home with Throat Thrush. All the time she was in hospital (45 miles from home) I was involved in a nine-hour daily visitation programme and she spent the entire time worried about being abandoned there. Dementia is so cruel to make our OHs suffer such worry and insecurity!
More recently, I was taken into hospital for an emergency procedure, followed by two weeks recuperation, during which she had to endure Respite Care (though it really is a lovely, caring home with devoted staff). She is now home with me, but some evil, stupid person told her she was there because I had "dumped her". For most of today, this thought has been prevalent in her mind!
We all know (don't we?) that one day, we will have to make that terrible decision and hate ourselves forever afterwards, but I know I really cannot cope for much longer, especially when unhappy thoughts are planted in such a vulnerable mind by some despicable person, making my OH even more difficult to guide and manage through daily routines.
Has anyone else encountered such a situation? Please help me to know how best to deal with my OH's related insecurities and destruction of trust? I feel so out of my depth. Thank you, in hope and love,
Lifebuoy44