Hi
@Josh60
My wife attends a local LA run care centre that has both a small day care unit, as well as a respite unit. She goes 1 day a week and last summer, she stayed in the respite unit for 9 days while I went to Majorca.
I dreaded both leaving her there, plus what she would be like coming home again. I was pretty sure she would be okay whilst there, as she is a happy little soul and tends to sit wherever she is put (no longer gets up and wander around). Our sons and her sister visited whilst she was in there and I rang in a few times.
She was absolutely fine and thankfully, seemed to get back to normal routine quite quickly, once home again.
I have managed to get her booked in there for 2 weeks at the end of this month - I am going away with our 2 sons and their family. Again I don't like leaving my wife but I certainly need the break and I will have my sons, DIL and grand kids for company/support.
I too have started visiting a few care homes, in preparation for when I can no longer cope. Its difficult to know exactly when that time will come but two I looked at this morning seemed very well run and have "Good" CQC recent reports. I have put her name on their lists, so at lest that's a start. Horrible isn't it?
Best wishes
Phil