it seems like a big improvement in her quality of life.
It often happens when we find a good home.
Everything is geared to the residents` needs which so many of us are unable to provide by ourselves in our own homes.
it seems like a big improvement in her quality of life.
Although she will not remember playing it seems like a big improvement in her quality of life.
This is so uplifting m8 and I’m sure will give comfort to those who face this new challenge in the near future. In a way I wish my Pauline was at that stage as it is her expressed wish to go into assisted living flat ASAP but there is no way we can afford it unfortunately. Good luck with your new lease of life.Thanks all for your sound advice. I had a day off from visiting yesterday and enjoyed my day with Knight by my side. I am just back from visiting her this morning. She was out when I got there, so I was able to retrieve her suitcase and some tops for more permanent labelling. A staff member gave me most of my wife's rings as she was starting to lose them. I could never get her to take them off. I took in some personal history notes for her care plan and a memory file that we put together last year. I also took in the Robert Opie scrapbooks of the 1950s and 1960s for the lady who does the reminiscence work. My wife never showed much interest in them but some of the other residents might.
My wife came back from church - something that she has not done in her adult life - just before lunch. She was in a lovely mood and we had a precious few minutes together in her room. She wanted me to see it because she likes it so much. She then helped the other residents into the dining room like a mother hen. It was lovely to see her happy although it has left me feeling rather emotional.
Good to know that the care home was the right thing to doThanks @Agzy. The fish, chips and mushy peas looked and smelt lovely today when I visited my wife. She is getting her hair cut and coloured this afternoon. After nearly 4 weeks she still talks about going 'home' - maybe she always will - but when she goes out for a walk with the staff she can't wait to get back. It seems that she has taken to her new residence rather well. I registered her with a local GP today (as she is out of area for her old practice). Bit by bit her move is taking on permanence and I am getting into the rhythm of living separate but still intertwined lives.
Such a good point .That made me think that moving her to the home whilst she still has a personality that the staff can appreciate
Northumbrian, you have made me feel a lot better, I'm taking my hubby OH to care home tomorrow for 3 weeks respite to give me a rest, I'm really struggling with his care now due to him being housebound and having numerous falls indoors. At the end of his respite there is a chance he will stay permanently, a d you saying g how your OH seems happier and soon settled and smiling more is very positive for me.She enjoyed the farm visit last week and is continuing to settle into her new way of life. Some days are better than others but that has been so for a long time.
I visited this afternoon but did not stay long as she was absorbed in a game of dominoes. At home she would not sit still long enough to begin a game never mind play one. Although she will not remember playing it seems like a big improvement in her quality of life.
I am so grateful for all the comments above. OH is now booked for admission to Care Home at 11.00am this Wednesday. He will be on a trial basis to start, with a review at 3 weeks and 6 weeks, though the expectation is that he will stay there permanently. I am all of a dither trying to make a list of things to take and things to do.Northumbrian, you have made me feel a lot better, I'm taking my hubby OH to care home tomorrow for 3 weeks respite to give me a rest, I'm really struggling with his care now due to him being housebound and having numerous falls indoors. At the end of his respite there is a chance he will stay permanently, a d you saying g how your OH seems happier and soon settled and smiling more is very positive for me.
I hope she Carrie's on with being content in her new home and you soon settle down with your new life.
I am so grateful for all the comments above. OH is now booked for admission to Care Home at 11.00am this Wednesday. He will be on a trial basis to start, with a review at 3 weeks and 6 weeks, though the expectation is that he will stay there permanently. I am all of a dither trying to make a list of things to take and things to do.
Here we are on OH's last day at home. He will be admitted to the Care Home at 11.00 tomorrow. I can't tell you how I feel, the nearest I can get is numb, It has been such a busy day of packing, labelling, taking OH for a haircut and making tea for a constant stream of visitors, all trying to be jolly and encouraging. OH has spent most of it asleep, even dozing off while waiting in the Barber's. He is aware that he is moving tomorrow (well some of the time) and agrees that it is for the best. His only 'red lines' are that he MUST have a TV in his room, a constant supply of bananas and that no male carers/nurses have to be involved in his personal care. I have checked and there are no male carers, only the physio/activity coordinator is a man.Best of luck with this. My wife also went for a short trial but almost the instant that I dropped her off I realised that it would take some big disaster for me to contemplate having her back. We are now into week 8. From her care home's perspective the first 3 months are seen as a trial period that can be terminated at 1 week's notice. After that it is 1 month.
Remember to label everything but be aware that doing so will not stop things from going astray.
Just to say thinking of you and good luck tomorrow. Try to get a good sleep. Tomorrows the start of the new normal. I'm in Scotland tooHere we are on OH's last day at home. He will be admitted to the Care Home at 11.00 tomorrow. I can't tell you how I feel, the nearest I can get is numb, It has been such a busy day of packing, labelling, taking OH for a haircut and making tea for a constant stream of visitors, all trying to be jolly and encouraging. OH has spent most of it asleep, even dozing off while waiting in the Barber's. He is aware that he is moving tomorrow (well some of the time) and agrees that it is for the best. His only 'red lines' are that he MUST have a TV in his room, a constant supply of bananas and that no male carers/nurses have to be involved in his personal care. I have checked and there are no male carers, only the physio/activity coordinator is a man.
I have cooked his favourites for his tea and he ate the lot and I have a dozen bananas ready for tomorrow, It will be fine.
Dear Wifenotcarer, I don't know you (obvs) but I just want to send you a huge hug and a whole odd mixed heap of 'keep strong' and 'cry if you want to'. Despite what you might think to yourself in a dark moment, you will have done your absolute best. I suspect this milestone is coming over the hill for us too. I salute you. xxHere we are on OH's last day at home. He will be admitted to the Care Home at 11.00 tomorrow. I can't tell you how I feel, the nearest I can get is numb, It has been such a busy day of packing, labelling, taking OH for a haircut and making tea for a constant stream of visitors, all trying to be jolly and encouraging. OH has spent most of it asleep, even dozing off while waiting in the Barber's. He is aware that he is moving tomorrow (well some of the time) and agrees that it is for the best. His only 'red lines' are that he MUST have a TV in his room, a constant supply of bananas and that no male carers/nurses have to be involved in his personal care. I have checked and there are no male carers, only the physio/activity coordinator is a man.
I have cooked his favourites for his tea and he ate the lot and I have a dozen bananas ready for tomorrow, It will be fine.