The family who help when ever they can, worry about me needing a break from caring for my husband who is 90. I am 84. It was arranged for a man to come and chat with a view to taking him out at a later stage.The session was meant to be for 2 hours but I said an hour would be enough. As it was, my husband lasted 20 mins and then asked him, politely to leave. ( I'm not well enough to go out so went upstairs for a little break)
Afterwards he was very anxious and couldn't understand what the man was doing here, in spite of me preparing him for the visit. I said he will come regularly to see how he is and have a little chat, and 'wasn't he a nice bloke.'
He's adamant he doesn't need anybody to talk to and he doesn't want anybody like that coming again. Next week it will be a different man (the only way they could arrange it.) so i won't tell him till just before he arrives or he'll dig his heels in.
Meanwhile, it's making me on edge worrying about it and if I am doing the right thing. Is it really fair to force him into something he obviously doesn't want? My family says be firm with him, he will get used to it and it will be a big help to me as his condition worsens.
Right now, he is happy and contented and not aggressive so is easy from that point of view. Why should I spoil this by causing him anxiety? Any suggestions would be welcome
Afterwards he was very anxious and couldn't understand what the man was doing here, in spite of me preparing him for the visit. I said he will come regularly to see how he is and have a little chat, and 'wasn't he a nice bloke.'
He's adamant he doesn't need anybody to talk to and he doesn't want anybody like that coming again. Next week it will be a different man (the only way they could arrange it.) so i won't tell him till just before he arrives or he'll dig his heels in.
Meanwhile, it's making me on edge worrying about it and if I am doing the right thing. Is it really fair to force him into something he obviously doesn't want? My family says be firm with him, he will get used to it and it will be a big help to me as his condition worsens.
Right now, he is happy and contented and not aggressive so is easy from that point of view. Why should I spoil this by causing him anxiety? Any suggestions would be welcome