Hello all, I am looking for some ideas about managing a few toilet problems.
Firstly, My husband appears to be really anxious about entering the bathroom, especially when he knows it's for a poo. Sometimes he begins to have what looks like a panic attack with rapid breathing and telling me not to make him do it. He also insists on taking all his clothes off to do it. Sometimes I can get him to settle and sit but this evening he paced the house in his vest, complaining he was cold and then getting very cross if I even half suggested that he tried sitting on the loo. In the end I backed off and after an hour he got himself dressed without 'going'. He has begun to refuse a shower - only in the past two days but I have a feeling that we're now going into the next phase and battle lines are being firmly drawn.
The second problem is random urinating around the house. Mostly at night but sometimes during the day. At night I close all the doors and open the toilet door, right opposite the bedroom so that he can't miss it. I also leave a light on in the hall. (we live in a bungalow) and have placed a commode there so that he has another option. After he has done it, he denies it was him and it's difficult to move him when he's in full flow.
Any thoughts on these problems would be gratefully received. xx
Firstly, My husband appears to be really anxious about entering the bathroom, especially when he knows it's for a poo. Sometimes he begins to have what looks like a panic attack with rapid breathing and telling me not to make him do it. He also insists on taking all his clothes off to do it. Sometimes I can get him to settle and sit but this evening he paced the house in his vest, complaining he was cold and then getting very cross if I even half suggested that he tried sitting on the loo. In the end I backed off and after an hour he got himself dressed without 'going'. He has begun to refuse a shower - only in the past two days but I have a feeling that we're now going into the next phase and battle lines are being firmly drawn.
The second problem is random urinating around the house. Mostly at night but sometimes during the day. At night I close all the doors and open the toilet door, right opposite the bedroom so that he can't miss it. I also leave a light on in the hall. (we live in a bungalow) and have placed a commode there so that he has another option. After he has done it, he denies it was him and it's difficult to move him when he's in full flow.
Any thoughts on these problems would be gratefully received. xx