This speaks very loud and clear to me, I was sent to Coventry for six days for putting the special saucepan in the dishwasher. And this was before I even dreamed of Alz. and two years before he went for a scan. I want to raise a vote for the running away. I think this site is wonderful with magnificent people sacrificing themselves in a most selfless way, but I cannot behave like that. I can't and I won't. I am creating a life where I have other places to live as well as the marital home so I have bolt holes which I use every week or so. I am maintaining friends who are my friends and dont expect me to stay home, and since my husband is in denial about his symptoms and behaviour I just let them go, be as patient and as kind as I can be, and know that next week I will be staying with my daughter. For me, running away is a regular occurrence which I am building into our life together so that I can bear it and continue it, and I encourage my husband to go to courses and classes so that he is not dependent on me for company. Obviously, he is not as ill as your husband is, and I am so sorry for your situation, but I do urge you to see if you can find somewhere that you can 'run away' to, even if it is for an afternoon. You have a life too. (and yes, I do feel terribly guilty!)