Oh course it’s alright, in fact you must.
I found out the way to get action by accident. I was talking to a member of our local family careers and she asked me how I was. I just lost it! Went through the whole gamut of reactions! Within days, OH had a consultant appointment within 10 days ( Easter was in the way),, and I was told to get respite ( self funding).
The Easter was a nightmare, two falls, two tias. But a member of the DIST ( dementia Intensive Support Team) came to see me.
While she was here, OH butted in ( he hated me talking to anybody else if he wasn’t within earshot), he wanted to go to the loo. The DIST lady must have seen my shoulders slump, so she jumped up and said, I’ll take him - and did, leaving me sitting in the sunshine! Bliss!
The consultant stopped most of his tablets. OH went in for respite and didn’t come out.
So my breakdown certainly got results, though I didn’t ‘get it’ til later!
So try a bit of honest talk, threaten leaving her at their door, or something equally horrendous! Carer breakdown is not the best thing for you to undergo, promise.
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