my mum is 91, she has Alzheimer’s, she is now in a care home. She isn’t eating and wasn’t drinkinking. She is now constipated. I have been today and had a shock, as I haven’t seen her for a week as I have Parkinson’s disease and have had a chest infection.
She looks like she is nine months pregnant as her stomach is so extended, every time she tries to move she is screaming and crying in agony with pain in her back, the community matron has been out five times in the last two days to her, she has had two enemas, fruit juice, medication which they have now doubled. But nothing at all has happened, she has been constipated for over a week. She has rapidly deteriorated over the last few months and is very frail and weak. She doesnt have the energy to even push. We have today requested a doctor be called out. The home were reluctant to do this as they said the matron would be out today to assess her. But we insisted, however I have not had any phone calls to say she is going to hospital, and I feel sure this will happen, so I’m guessing they haven’t called the doctor in.
They did tell me they are watching her every 30 minutes and if there is anything they will ring 999. I find it unbelievable that a frail, weak lady should be left in so much pain. But whatever I seem to ask they do the opposite.
I’ve asked them how long she can be like this and they just say it’s up to the matron. We nearly lost my mum twice at Christmas through them not monitoring her fluid intake and food. The doctor told me she was going to die then. However, she pulled through simply because my brother went and gave her fluids. We have had several safeguarding meetings and each time they promise it is going to be different. We feel that she is so frail to move her now would definitely do more harm than good.
I do not know what to do next. Has anybody else experienced this severe constipation and if you have what should we be doing. The home think I’m over reacting but I just want my mum to be comfortable and not be in pain, as she is in the last stages now. It really is heartbreaking to see her in so much pain.
She looks like she is nine months pregnant as her stomach is so extended, every time she tries to move she is screaming and crying in agony with pain in her back, the community matron has been out five times in the last two days to her, she has had two enemas, fruit juice, medication which they have now doubled. But nothing at all has happened, she has been constipated for over a week. She has rapidly deteriorated over the last few months and is very frail and weak. She doesnt have the energy to even push. We have today requested a doctor be called out. The home were reluctant to do this as they said the matron would be out today to assess her. But we insisted, however I have not had any phone calls to say she is going to hospital, and I feel sure this will happen, so I’m guessing they haven’t called the doctor in.
They did tell me they are watching her every 30 minutes and if there is anything they will ring 999. I find it unbelievable that a frail, weak lady should be left in so much pain. But whatever I seem to ask they do the opposite.
I’ve asked them how long she can be like this and they just say it’s up to the matron. We nearly lost my mum twice at Christmas through them not monitoring her fluid intake and food. The doctor told me she was going to die then. However, she pulled through simply because my brother went and gave her fluids. We have had several safeguarding meetings and each time they promise it is going to be different. We feel that she is so frail to move her now would definitely do more harm than good.
I do not know what to do next. Has anybody else experienced this severe constipation and if you have what should we be doing. The home think I’m over reacting but I just want my mum to be comfortable and not be in pain, as she is in the last stages now. It really is heartbreaking to see her in so much pain.