hi all
I am really struggling at the moment 2 years after moving mum in with me.
I work full time and then care on evening and weekend. My boyfriend cares didn’t mum during the day.
Mum goes to day centre once a week to give my boyfriend a break.
I feel exhausted, trapped, confused and mentally unable to cope. I desperately need respite care however I am petrified of telling mum that she is going into care - even for a week.
I know it is best for her but I am struggling with the thoughts of guilt that I will be abandoning her. I know this is not the case and that if I don’t get some respite soon I won’t be able to look after her at all. My hair has started falling out. I never leave the house other than to go to work or to go and sit in a local lay by and cry.
Please may I have some advise on how others have broached the subject and experiences of getting person caring for to go to respite care?
I just know it’s going to be an awful emotional struggle. I’m also afraid that when she gets back our relationship will be worse and she will hate me and never forgive me for putting her into respite.
Thanks for advise in advance
I am really struggling at the moment 2 years after moving mum in with me.
I work full time and then care on evening and weekend. My boyfriend cares didn’t mum during the day.
Mum goes to day centre once a week to give my boyfriend a break.
I feel exhausted, trapped, confused and mentally unable to cope. I desperately need respite care however I am petrified of telling mum that she is going into care - even for a week.
I know it is best for her but I am struggling with the thoughts of guilt that I will be abandoning her. I know this is not the case and that if I don’t get some respite soon I won’t be able to look after her at all. My hair has started falling out. I never leave the house other than to go to work or to go and sit in a local lay by and cry.
Please may I have some advise on how others have broached the subject and experiences of getting person caring for to go to respite care?
I just know it’s going to be an awful emotional struggle. I’m also afraid that when she gets back our relationship will be worse and she will hate me and never forgive me for putting her into respite.
Thanks for advise in advance