So I too am writing down for my children what I remember being told or memories from my childhood...teenage...to getting married etc and encouraging OH to do the same..
I already have two shrubs, which I took cuttings off last year. I’ve taken a couple for J, but need to see what I want to bring with me when I leave. I’m waiting to see if dad’s Iris's come up, so I can take them. They were the last things my dad planted here & I'm desperate for them to appear. This is the first year they have not been evident by this time. I’m hoping they appear soon
I now have images of shrubs tied up with tights
My mum refused to talk about her family. I’ve since found out the stories behind this & it’s a tragic case of misunderstanding resulting in both her & her mum being very hurt, which wouId have been avoided if they had just talked honestly. So sad
My paternal grandmother apparently arranged for someone to research her tree, which her father was furious about (probably because of the extortionate cost that he had to cover). Although the research was done, it’s been lost
So I started my research with very little info & a lot of hostility from my parents. It took a year before they opened a bit, it probably took a further 5 or 6 years before they wouId talk more. It’s been a slow journey
@love.dad.but..
I’m starting to put the stories of my parents down, so my children & grandchildren can know more about their history, but with some flesh on the skeleton
I have unearthed a bit of history on mums side. It’s made me laugh & mum wouId have been so shocked. Mum was proud of being from the south. She was so shocked when I started dating a guy from the north, she went to mass every week, when she missed one week & I asked her about it, she said “it wasn’t doing any good”
It turns out her ancestors were originally from the north, but moved south due to persecution regarding religion. So my mum being so upset at me dating a guy from the north is kind of funny now
