Hi There,
I am new to this forum. My Mum who is in the moderate to advanced stage of mixed dementia ( Alzheimer's & Vascular dementia) has been having a lot of falls. My Mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia in 2014. My mum has been living on her own since my Dad passed away in 2008. I live in the USA and have been there since 2004, I am a only child and I carry a lot of guilt. I come home to the UK 3 / 4 times a year to visit my Mum and spend time with her. I have put together a care package with Social Services and up to this point at the beginning of October 2018 everything was going fine. I have had camera's installed in my Mum's home and I am able to speak to her through them. I am my mother's Power of Attorney for Health & Finances. I do her food shopping on line and have carers come to put that away for her. I have a cleaner and a lady come and do the washing and Ironing as well. I have a carer take her out on a Social visit on a Friday for four hours which she loves. Everything was good until 1st October 2018.
On October 1st my Mum fell at home and fractured her Femur neck on her hip. She was taken to A & E and was operated on with Dynamic Hip Screw. She was then sent to the Community Hospital for Rehabilitation. At first she was doing good and they had her walk 5 m on the parallel bars but then they did not try her again they just got her to stand on a rotunda and transfer to a wheelchair. When I questioned this they told me she had been struggling but I had witnessed her doing it very well. The hospital decided to discharge my Mum after three weeks even though I pleaded with them that it was too early reminded them that she would forget the operation with having the dementia and try and stand and walk and fall again. The Social worker said that they cannot stop falls and she has to go home to try and see how things go. I was disgusted. My Mum came home on the Tuesday her carers started back. Two carers, four times a day. Shew was told that between calls if she needed the toilet she would have to do it in her pants ( Tena Lady) until the next carer came to change her. At night she was put to bed at about 9.15 pm and had to stay in bed until about 9 am the next morning and do whatever she had to do again in her pants and the carers would clean her when they came. Her dignity was taken!!!
On the Thursday two days after leaving hospital she fell again and was taken to A & E and fortunately had not broken anything after the had done the x rays. I spoke at great length with the Doctor who admitted her to the Emergency Assessment Unit to be further assessed as she also thought that she should not have been discharged. I extended my flight and am staying until 25th November to fight my Mum's corner. I am totally beside myself with worry as I am a only child and I love her very much. After Mum was assessed she was sent to a care home for two weeks respite. I go and be with her every day and we are waiting for a Social worker to come to assess if they are going to send my Mum back home which they can do or if they decide that she needs long term care. I am so frightened of them sending her back home because I know she will fall again as she is not capable of walking. Has anyone got any good advice as I am at my wits end.
I am new to this forum. My Mum who is in the moderate to advanced stage of mixed dementia ( Alzheimer's & Vascular dementia) has been having a lot of falls. My Mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia in 2014. My mum has been living on her own since my Dad passed away in 2008. I live in the USA and have been there since 2004, I am a only child and I carry a lot of guilt. I come home to the UK 3 / 4 times a year to visit my Mum and spend time with her. I have put together a care package with Social Services and up to this point at the beginning of October 2018 everything was going fine. I have had camera's installed in my Mum's home and I am able to speak to her through them. I am my mother's Power of Attorney for Health & Finances. I do her food shopping on line and have carers come to put that away for her. I have a cleaner and a lady come and do the washing and Ironing as well. I have a carer take her out on a Social visit on a Friday for four hours which she loves. Everything was good until 1st October 2018.
On October 1st my Mum fell at home and fractured her Femur neck on her hip. She was taken to A & E and was operated on with Dynamic Hip Screw. She was then sent to the Community Hospital for Rehabilitation. At first she was doing good and they had her walk 5 m on the parallel bars but then they did not try her again they just got her to stand on a rotunda and transfer to a wheelchair. When I questioned this they told me she had been struggling but I had witnessed her doing it very well. The hospital decided to discharge my Mum after three weeks even though I pleaded with them that it was too early reminded them that she would forget the operation with having the dementia and try and stand and walk and fall again. The Social worker said that they cannot stop falls and she has to go home to try and see how things go. I was disgusted. My Mum came home on the Tuesday her carers started back. Two carers, four times a day. Shew was told that between calls if she needed the toilet she would have to do it in her pants ( Tena Lady) until the next carer came to change her. At night she was put to bed at about 9.15 pm and had to stay in bed until about 9 am the next morning and do whatever she had to do again in her pants and the carers would clean her when they came. Her dignity was taken!!!
On the Thursday two days after leaving hospital she fell again and was taken to A & E and fortunately had not broken anything after the had done the x rays. I spoke at great length with the Doctor who admitted her to the Emergency Assessment Unit to be further assessed as she also thought that she should not have been discharged. I extended my flight and am staying until 25th November to fight my Mum's corner. I am totally beside myself with worry as I am a only child and I love her very much. After Mum was assessed she was sent to a care home for two weeks respite. I go and be with her every day and we are waiting for a Social worker to come to assess if they are going to send my Mum back home which they can do or if they decide that she needs long term care. I am so frightened of them sending her back home because I know she will fall again as she is not capable of walking. Has anyone got any good advice as I am at my wits end.