So we are used to most of the behaviours that my Dad has shown over the years and we've seen more signs of deterioration over the last 1-2 years such as incontinence and mistaking certain things/areas for the toilet. Another one has progressed recently - twice so far - temper. I use the word 'progressed' instead of being a new one because I think it's an upgrade from a behaviour he had before.
My brother tried to get him in the bath. He's been hesitant about bathing before and then the next minute he's fine about it. Today he got so argumentative and angry that it really took my brother's breath. Dad was insisting my brother was some government official with wrong intentions (yeah I know!) and that's why Dad was being so stubborn.
When my brother decided to stop pushing the idea of bathing and offered him his dressing gown to put on, my Dad snatched it from him with a fury that he said if his face had been close by, he would have suffered something like a punch.
My brother called me afterwards and we talked it out. We both know that 'it's' not my Dad acting like that, it's the dementia. We know when my Dad is tired and/or hungry he can occasionally act like it's WW3 but today felt different to my brother.
I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I've not even written the thread title as I type!! I'm guessing some things make more sense when put in writing. I also would like to hear your tales when something similar happened with you and how you dealt with it so that I can send the link to this thread to my brother as I've told him about TP and that there are others going through same or similar situation. So if you don't mind can you let me know what did you do to resolve a similar situation? What would you advise? Is there anything my brother could have done so that the situation did not arise?
Thank you for reading so far.
My brother tried to get him in the bath. He's been hesitant about bathing before and then the next minute he's fine about it. Today he got so argumentative and angry that it really took my brother's breath. Dad was insisting my brother was some government official with wrong intentions (yeah I know!) and that's why Dad was being so stubborn.
When my brother decided to stop pushing the idea of bathing and offered him his dressing gown to put on, my Dad snatched it from him with a fury that he said if his face had been close by, he would have suffered something like a punch.
My brother called me afterwards and we talked it out. We both know that 'it's' not my Dad acting like that, it's the dementia. We know when my Dad is tired and/or hungry he can occasionally act like it's WW3 but today felt different to my brother.
I'm not sure why I'm posting this - I've not even written the thread title as I type!! I'm guessing some things make more sense when put in writing. I also would like to hear your tales when something similar happened with you and how you dealt with it so that I can send the link to this thread to my brother as I've told him about TP and that there are others going through same or similar situation. So if you don't mind can you let me know what did you do to resolve a similar situation? What would you advise? Is there anything my brother could have done so that the situation did not arise?
Thank you for reading so far.