Hi All... I know I will be given the correct help and guidance on here...
Mum had to go into a care home a few months ago, because I could no longer keep her safe in her own home... She gets her state pension, a very small private pension that was originally my Dad's and an attendance allowance... other than that she has no savings and her income doesn't come close to covering the cost of the Care Home, so as her Attorney, I'm having to sell her little 2 bedroomed ex-council house to fund her care.
Since I moved in to care for her 24/7, in June 2016, Social Services made it abundantly clear that, because Mum owned her own property, we were on our own and would get no help from them... so I found a lovely care home for her, where she's happy and well cared for.
I have been funding more than half towards the cost of her care out my own pocket until her house is sold and I'm struggling to cope now. I don't earn that much and have had to use my very modest savings to manage. Hopefully, the house sale will complete before the end of October and I will only have to pay for this month before the proceeds of her house can start funding her.
It's been the most difficult and heartbreaking process, clearing out my Mum's home, (63 years of memories), while she's still alive, something I never imagined doing...
I lost my Mum for the first time 4 years ago, to Alzheimers... I now feel I'm losing her a second time and that I've in some way let her down, because I always promised I would care for her at home... I now have to prepare myself for the ultimate loss...
In the midst of all this grief and guilt, I have to start thinking about the practicalities, like cancelling all the utilities and informing the DWP, HMRC etc that she no longer lives at this address and transfer all her official mail to my new address.
I've never done anything like this before and it's overwhelming...there's so much to think about, at a time when I just want to curl into foetal position and cry...
I'm sure that many of you will have been through similar experiences, so any advice about how to go about it would be much appreciated.
Thank you x
Mum had to go into a care home a few months ago, because I could no longer keep her safe in her own home... She gets her state pension, a very small private pension that was originally my Dad's and an attendance allowance... other than that she has no savings and her income doesn't come close to covering the cost of the Care Home, so as her Attorney, I'm having to sell her little 2 bedroomed ex-council house to fund her care.
Since I moved in to care for her 24/7, in June 2016, Social Services made it abundantly clear that, because Mum owned her own property, we were on our own and would get no help from them... so I found a lovely care home for her, where she's happy and well cared for.
I have been funding more than half towards the cost of her care out my own pocket until her house is sold and I'm struggling to cope now. I don't earn that much and have had to use my very modest savings to manage. Hopefully, the house sale will complete before the end of October and I will only have to pay for this month before the proceeds of her house can start funding her.
It's been the most difficult and heartbreaking process, clearing out my Mum's home, (63 years of memories), while she's still alive, something I never imagined doing...
I lost my Mum for the first time 4 years ago, to Alzheimers... I now feel I'm losing her a second time and that I've in some way let her down, because I always promised I would care for her at home... I now have to prepare myself for the ultimate loss...
In the midst of all this grief and guilt, I have to start thinking about the practicalities, like cancelling all the utilities and informing the DWP, HMRC etc that she no longer lives at this address and transfer all her official mail to my new address.
I've never done anything like this before and it's overwhelming...there's so much to think about, at a time when I just want to curl into foetal position and cry...
I'm sure that many of you will have been through similar experiences, so any advice about how to go about it would be much appreciated.
Thank you x