In fairness (and to clarify), my BIL is a really nice bloke and this was right at the start of our "dementia journey" over 4 years ago. Like a lot of folk, I just don't think he thought about what he was saying and they have been fairly supportive since.
My skin has got considerably thicker over the last few years, which is I guess a bit of a defence mechanism. Just occasionally something, be it a remark or something on TV, will pierce that thick skin and the tears come - usually in the quiet of my own home.
I am off abroad on holiday on Thursday for a week, with my mate and his wife, to celebrate his 50th. My wife is going for a respite stay at the Integrated Care Centre where she goes one day a week for day care. It's the first time we have been separated (apart from when I used to go away with work) so I have very mixed feelings about it. I know she will be fine but I am still apprehensive.
I am hoping that the break will "top my batteries up", providing I survive the birthday celebrations in Magaluf!