My husband was diagnosed a year ago, mild to moderate. He needs a lot of help from me, but I think most people will have seen only slight changes so far - long may that continue. I wanted to talk bout how Alz is changing our relationship - I feel I have lost the intelligent and equal partner of 40 plus years - apart from brief and delightful glimpses. Easy and humorous conv about no-longer-shared memories appear to be a thing of the past. My Living Well Course advised against 'testing ' memory, which I don't want to do, but it's difficult to always avoid chatty musings, and then get out of the conversation smoothly, when it's clear it's heading nowhere.
OH seems to have lost most of his executive function, so nearly all decisions, major and minor are down to me. Luckily I can handle most of it, but it's lonely and scary. We need to make a major decision about a house move before too long, and I fear I may end up almost bullying him to make the change.
It seems to me that most of our friends and family have no idea at all about this side of things, and I hold back from sharing because it feels disloyal, I may not be believed, and I'll just sound like a nagging wife - which I do often feel like - get sick of the sound of my voice, answering questions- as briefly and clearly as possible! - giving instructions/reminders etc etc
Should love to hear insights from others similarly affected, and thank you for reading this - I did look for earlier threads on the subject, but couldn't find any, Best wishes to all you brave people out there
OH seems to have lost most of his executive function, so nearly all decisions, major and minor are down to me. Luckily I can handle most of it, but it's lonely and scary. We need to make a major decision about a house move before too long, and I fear I may end up almost bullying him to make the change.
It seems to me that most of our friends and family have no idea at all about this side of things, and I hold back from sharing because it feels disloyal, I may not be believed, and I'll just sound like a nagging wife - which I do often feel like - get sick of the sound of my voice, answering questions- as briefly and clearly as possible! - giving instructions/reminders etc etc
Should love to hear insights from others similarly affected, and thank you for reading this - I did look for earlier threads on the subject, but couldn't find any, Best wishes to all you brave people out there