I know how you feel, Pete. I was always reluctant to allow male carers to provide personal care at home to my OH, but once I got to know one fellow when he came round shadowing another carer, and she didn't seem to mind then there was never a problem. If you really don't like the idea then you should be able to speak to the care home manager who should respect your wishes. I know from speaking to the fellow OH had that a few people had asked that he not visit and the agency respected that.
Yes but i always thourgjt in a resedenial care home there should always be more than one person in the room when doing personal care
If you are concerned please discuss this with the manager. It will be interesting to hear what they say so please post an update.
I know how you feel, Pete. I was always reluctant to allow male carers to provide personal care at home to my OH, but once I got to know one fellow when he came round shadowing another carer, and she didn't seem to mind then there was never a problem. If you really don't like the idea then you should be able to speak to the care home manager who should respect your wishes. I know from speaking to the fellow OH had that a few people had asked that he not visit and the agency respected that.
Think carefully before you voice it with management, exactly what it is that you are unhappy with.
If you dont think you wife is comfortable with a man washing her, thats one thing.
If you are not happy with a man washing her, thats another thing all together. Think why you aren't comfortable with it- Is it trust or something else? Dignity? If She had a male GP have to examine her in intimate areas, would you feel the same?
My late Mother actually preferred the male carers.
Thanks i did wonder about .Hello. I worked in a care home for few months a few years ago. We had few residents that would require more than one person to get them up, provide personal care etc. Especially if the use of hoist was required. But majority of residents who had mobility were always washed and prepared by one of the staff. There were always problems with not enough staff and home was constanlty recruiting but it would be difficult to have 2 people helping each resident as it could mean some people wouldn't be up til about 2 pm. I don't know what the staff/resident ratio is in the home your wife is in, but that might be part of the reason?
All of the carers I have known have been very professional and turned around would the uncomfortable feeling be the same if it was a man needing care from a female??
Obviously we are all different and if you are bothered then yes I agree to speak to the manager.