Thanks for the acceptance in desperation ive looked for some advice and ive found you x Its been a rough day..first in a while mums been quiet of late thankfully. Been at my parents most of the afternoon and again this evening. Couldnt talk mum round at all today. Adamant she doesnt want to be anywhere near my dad ..why is he in my house.. who said he could be here .. trying to send him away ..threatening to leave herself.. you cant keep me here ..i want to go home right now...im not married ..never been married ..i dont want a relationship ..ive always been on my own..all so contradictory married to dad 54 years and 50 years in the same house. Deflection exhasting and not working at all. I stop talking and she says..im going to tell him to leave right now n up she gets shouting again. Shes thrown things at him tonight sooo angry. Reluctantly eventually she agreed to stay there tonight on the understanding that shes moving out tomorrow.. thankfully she wont remember that in the morning. Everyones totally shattered her included. Will try to get a sample in the morning just to rule out the dreaded UTI and we have mental health specialist nurse visiting in the afternoon..which in my experience means very little. Looking at homes but sooo difficult to find a place even for respite and its a minefield of questions as self funding n nowhere seems to have any spaces. Feels very isolating and frightening sometimes for poor disabled dad no one seems to be able to help just me and my sister and carer who comes in to get her up n showered each day. People come to see her and shes as nice as pie ..butter wouldnt melt but the minute they leave its back to the usual. Tried the emergency helpline previously..they just informed specialist nurse who called 3 days later. She told him to call the helpline!! .To be honest by the time anyone would get to him the episode would be over. Sorry for the rant when ive only been accepted for 5 mins..just been a bit of a day x