Hi i was going to start a thread today, however after reading this thread from the start it was really rather comforting. Since my mums memory has been deteriorating we have continually lied to her about the reasons her memory are bad, (mum had a huge fear of dementia). However she is quite demanding, and doesn't know how much we actually do for her. Everyday we pick her up and spend day with her, feeding her and her dog. She goes home in the evening, and rings constantly telling us she is lonely and never sees a soul. I find it so draining, and at the moment there really is no light at the end of the tunnel. I am lucky i have a sister who shares the week days with me. I am the only POA, and this morning she accused me of taking her money. She probably shouldn't live alone, but as she will not accept there's anything wrong, you cannot help her. I feel like i have this big ball of anger, frustration, annoyance and probably fear sitting in my chest, waiting to burst out. I can't see a release. I want someone to tell me how this is going to go, but i know that isn't possible. Should i stop lying to her? Would it make a difference? By doing what she wants all the time are we just holding off the inevitable crisis?
I cannot split myself in this many ways without someone losing out, between 4 children, hubbie, myself and mum.
I am so glad i found this forum, the comfort it brings is so invaluable !!