Hi @Jezzer
I have been silently lurking and reading the posts about you and your Mum recently.
This latest, when your Mum asked 'Am I going funny?' really hit home as it's exactly the phrase that my Mum uses.
Not only are these people who we love so very much, having every last little bit of dignity stripped away - it eats me up inside that their minds are in constant turmoil and worry. Early on in my Mum's 'journey' I naively hoped that we may come to the point where all her worries and anxieties would be overtaken by the disease - sadly this has not happened. Right from the outset my Mum has constantly questioned if she was 'going funny' and her GP and I for medical reasons, decided it was best not to disclose. She obviously knew then deep down, and still does even now, that something is not right and is beyond her control, so I have been changing the subject and 'working around it' for years.
All the time that things could be explained to Mum with some success, I used her Consultant's great explanation, that as we age our faculties fail. Some lose hearing, others mobility or in Mum's case it was her memory that was showing signs of age. This did the trick at the time, even though Mum would inevitably forget and ask again.
I thought Mum may be relieved of this worry as her mental capacity decreased - sadly, it hasn't.
My hope is that like with everything else, their memory completely wipes out the question and anxiety of 'going funny' until the thought rises to the surface again.
You wouldn't wish this on your worst enemy would you?
Love to you and your Mum
X
I have been silently lurking and reading the posts about you and your Mum recently.
This latest, when your Mum asked 'Am I going funny?' really hit home as it's exactly the phrase that my Mum uses.
Not only are these people who we love so very much, having every last little bit of dignity stripped away - it eats me up inside that their minds are in constant turmoil and worry. Early on in my Mum's 'journey' I naively hoped that we may come to the point where all her worries and anxieties would be overtaken by the disease - sadly this has not happened. Right from the outset my Mum has constantly questioned if she was 'going funny' and her GP and I for medical reasons, decided it was best not to disclose. She obviously knew then deep down, and still does even now, that something is not right and is beyond her control, so I have been changing the subject and 'working around it' for years.
All the time that things could be explained to Mum with some success, I used her Consultant's great explanation, that as we age our faculties fail. Some lose hearing, others mobility or in Mum's case it was her memory that was showing signs of age. This did the trick at the time, even though Mum would inevitably forget and ask again.
I thought Mum may be relieved of this worry as her mental capacity decreased - sadly, it hasn't.
My hope is that like with everything else, their memory completely wipes out the question and anxiety of 'going funny' until the thought rises to the surface again.
You wouldn't wish this on your worst enemy would you?
Love to you and your Mum
X